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Posted by Sama, at 09:24 on Tue, Jul 17th

I was forced to tell my mum about being gay, me and my gf had been dating only a few weeks when
I had to tell her.
My gf and I were going to wait until she was in college but one day when
we were at the beach we were seen holding hands by a friend of her sisters so she went and told
my gf's mother so my gf ended up breaking down and admitting it.

My gf and I had only
been going out about 17 days when it happened but we'd actually been more than just best
friends sicne about the 7th of march when we'd first actually kissed and things progressed from
there, I only got the courage to ask her out on april 30th but anyway when she told me that her
mum now knew I had to tell my mum because if she'd found out from someone else it would have
killed her. My step-dad helped me alot through it I'd told him months prior that I fancied my
best friend and he was completely ok with it.
I couldn't bring myself to actually say the
words I'm gay I just said "mam you know me and Dan Dan" and she kinda guessed from that she
cried asked repeatedly was I sure and still to this day she hasn't accepted it she like my gf's
mother thinks its just a phase, but they only see how we act as friends since we can't do
anything remotely couple like around them since they find it uncomfortable, my mother is always
bad mouthing the way I go on about my gf which annoys me but I can't do much since I live under
her roof. My step dad is great about it though he jokes with me about it and treats it just
like I was dating a guy I couldn't handle it without him my mum just ignores the whole thing.
My friends were easy to tell since half of them susspected I liked my best friend anyway, but
most of them are bi themselves so it was easy and I now feel we're all closer since I came out
to them and they all love my gf lol one of my friends a bit too much

Posted by Stef, at 17:52 on Wed, Jul 4th

i didnt really get a chance to come out to my mum.. i was in a relationship with a girl in year
11, and christian kids were complaining that we were 'openly displaying affection", (not as bad
as half the straight couples i might add) so the coodinater of our year rang my mum, without
warning me before or even telling me after he did it. i just got home and mum said ".. so.. you
and sarah..?" but she was fine about it, just annoyed i hadnt told her sooner. havnt told dad
yet, dont really talk to him much. but if he cant tell by lookin at me then..
But im really
shitty that the dickhead teacher took that chance away from me. Its a pretty personal thing

Posted by XRSTI, at 17:22 on Thu, Jun 28th

I first admited to myself in year 9, I had always denyed it in my head. The first person I told
was my best friend. We were in my room and I asked her how someones name is spelt so I could
correct it in my diary, I showed her where it was written, not realising on the page before I
had written 'I think I might be bisexual'. She was fine with it and didn't act any
different.
When I told my mum I was too scared to say it to her face so I wrote her a
letter. I told her I wanted to tell her something. She came into my room later that day and I
gave her the letter and ran to the bathroom. I sat crying and a few moments later she came in
and said she was ok with it, and it's just a phase, and she asked if the feelings I had for my
friend were 'sexual' and I was like 'I don't know!' (I was only 14 so I didn't really know what
she meant.) I had told her not to tell anyone, but she had told dad, which annoyed me because
she didn't do what I had asked her to! I wanted to tell him myself, even though it would have
been harder.
I told my sister in a text, you know when you talk to someone who is next to
you without actually sending one. She was fine with it but was upset to find out after
mum.
It was when I tried to commit suicide that the truth came out to more people. After I
came out of hospital my grandad, grandma and uncle were with us in the garden and my grandad
was saying how he was ok with it. Later on, my uncle and me had a heart-to-heart, which made us
closer and now we are closer than ever because he told me about what him and his friend used to
do and how confused he was at the time.
I told each of my friends in different ways,
testing to see which way was best. I told one on msn, another in a science lesson - I had
written it in the back of my book and showed it her. I have only properly said it to someones
face when I was drunk. She was asking questions about 'Stevie' (which is the code name I use
for the teacher I like) and I said 'Do you wana know who Stevie is?' So that's how I told
her!
My mum once admitted to me that she doesn't like it (after finding out I am a
lesbian), and that she wants grandchildren (like there's no way I could have some!), and that
she doesn't want me to be lonely all my life (I'm only 16!) I think she still thinks it's a
phase but someday she's going to have to just accept who I am!
I have told alot of people,
some have been ok with it, and some haven't, but it doesn't matter what they think, because
they are obviously not true friends!
I even told the teacher I like (in a letter) and she
was ok with that but when I told her I liked her she was a bit distant and then she was ok
again. I'm not going to go into my life story but it's so confusing how she is with me! One
minute I think I have a chance with her, then the next I think I don't! I'm just going to have
to wait and see...

Posted by wendy, at 19:41 on Mon, Jun 25th

WELL,WHERE TO START...... I HAD BEEN DIVORCED FOR NEARLY 2 YEARS ( MARRIED FOR 10 YEARS) AND
WAS LIVING IN A SMALL VILLAGE. I HAD A GREAT CIRCLE OF FRIENDS- ALL STRAIGHT- WHO I HAD KNOWN
FOR YEARS. I ALWAYS KNEW DEEP DOWN THAT I WAS GAY FROM A QUITE YOUNG AGE- BUT WENT ALONG WITH
ALL THE THINGS THAT WAS THE NORM- BOYFRIENDS, MARRIAGE, A CHILD.
ANYWAY ONE DAY AFTER
REALISING THAT LIFE WAS PASSING ME BY I REPLIED TO A AD IN A LOCAL MAG AND TO CUT A LONG STORY
SHORT MET THE LOVE OF MY LIFE! AFTER MEETING ALL MY FRIENDS ( SOME OF THEM GUESSED SHE WAS GAY
STRAIGHTAWAY!) I MUST ADMIT I DENIED THAT WE WERE TOGETHER AT FIRST AFTER ALL I WOULD BE ' THE
ONLY GAY IN THE VILLAGE!!!). FINALLY CAME OUT TO MY 12 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WHO HAS BEEN AMAZING
EVEN THO SHE HAS SUFFERED A LOT CRAP SHE INSISTS IT HAS MADE HER STRONGER. I TOLD MY BEST
FRIEND WHEN WE WERE BOTH DRUNK! SHE WAS SHOCKED BUT HAS BEEN FANTASTIC EVERSINCE AS HAVE THE
MAJORITY OF MY FRIENDS - ONE OR TWO JUST REFUSE TO ACCEPT ME BUT HEY THATS THERE PROBLEM!!!!
THIS IS THE BEST THING IVE EVER DONE AND MY GIRLFRIEND IS MY SOULMATE - WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR
7 YEARS AND I COULDNT ASK FOR MORE!!!!!!

Posted by Archer, at 17:30 on Mon, Jun 25th

I came out by force, id started going to a youth group for young LGBT people, at i think about
15 (lied and said i was 16 to get in) and after a couple of months of vanishing every tuesday
for 3 hours then returning to meet my mates, my friends decided to phone me at home during one
of my disappering acts only to have my mum say "she told me she was out with u guys...infact i
just spoke to her..." so when i showed up later that evening to meet my friends, they cornered
me and demanded an answer, so i told them two said ewww, my best guy mate shouted "i knew u
digged chicks!" the rest didnt really say anything. my mum asked later that night where i had
gone and i used the excuse that i was out with different friends and she musta misheard me on
the phone (which was technically true...) but the next day i just wrote her a little note on a
post it saying something like "ive been going to a gay youth group on tuesday evenings" she was
fine with it, but informed me not to tell my father,but she came out for me this year actually
(im now 20).... made me realise how stupid my dad is...i broke up with my g/f who had actually
been living with us in my room sleeping in my bed for a month, and my dad had no clue...until
after the break up i started going out and getting drunk every night, and my mum had to tell
him what was up, he gave me a hug and we never spoke about it again. i temporaily lost one mate
after coming out though, cos my best female mate wasnt their the night i came out, but she
didnt fall out with me for being gay...she fell out with me for being the last to know, and
even the friends that said eww are still my friends, so technically ive had a good coming out,
the rest of my family dont know though, and havent even seen me since i got my hair chopped
off, wonder what they will say!

Posted by Suze, at 12:58 on Mon, Jun 25th

well, i never confronted my parents they actually cought me out with my gf at the time kissing.
my mother asked me and i then told her. it didnt end like that though. my mother punched up my
gf and i jumped in and attacked my mum.. she reckons she wanted to hurt my gf coz its not how i
was brought up...
all my friends took it sweet. it was at the pub and my best mate stood
up on a chair and told the whole place. which ended up being a good thing coz i got free drinx
all night!!!
other then that ive been proudly out for over 3years without my parents
support but im still a very happy person and oneday they will come around...

Posted by Sophie, at 11:20 on Sat, Jun 23rd

I came out to my best friend when I was 14..on a whim one night when I suddenly decided I was
bi..I guess it had been in my mind for a while, but I was talking to her on AIM and decided I'd
tell her..I couldn't even say the words "I'm bi" so I used my two bi friends as an example and
made her guess by going "well you know how Louis and Will are DIFFERENT from other people?
..well I'm the same" but she took it amazingly and she told all my other friends.
Friends
since then have been told through the medium of myspace cos when they add me they see my
girlfriend plastered all over my page.
I lived in the closet with my parents until I was
17 when I decided I'd like to tell them..I spoke to my tutor who is also gay and a friend of my
parents, about telling them and wrote a million letters improving it each time, then in the
week before my parents found out, I told two of my cousins via msn, and my aunty by email. I
planned to go and stay with my cousin at uni and text my mum telling her that the letter was in
my room..that didn't quite work out because I stupidly left my email window open with the reply
email from my aunty..the next night my mum said to me "I think we need to have a chat..I saw
the email from Ann" and I was going "what email? I don't know what you're talking about" but
then went and got my letter and sat in my room while she read it in hers..and she cried a lot
and told me she didn't want me staying over my girlfriend's house "because I can't deal with
the thought of that right now" and she cried some more.
My dad's reaction was *slaps on
the knee* "well, whatever my princess wants" and from then on he's made awkward conversation
about it like "so..how's things?" which gets an "okay." "good."
BUT that was just coming
out as bisexual..I told my parents I wasn't too sure if I was bi or lesbian..now I've come out
to my girlfriend and best friend and told them I'm actually just gay..I don't think my mum
could handle the knowledge that there's no chance I'll end up in a straight relationship..so
that's the next hurdle..I may wait till I go away to uni, then I don't have to be at home when
she does find out.

Posted by ais, at 20:35 on Thu, Jun 14th

well if there was an award for the worst way to come out, i thnk i would win it! i first really
accepted myself that i was gay when i wasa about 115 or so, before that i was in denial. after
that i realized i would have to tell my friends, but i was really worried to! i knew thay would
accept me, but i was afraid that all the stupid flirty things we did just joking around
everyday would get awkward, or stop. i told my best friend after about a year. e's a guy, and i
told him in a letter, but as soon as he read it he rang me to say 'cool!'. boys eh?
after
that i got a huge confidence lift and told all my close friends. my parents was a trickier
subject though, and this is where i fucked up.
we were having a graduation ball in school,
and i wanted to bring a girl as a date. i said this to the teachers, but i went to a cathholic
school, it wasnt allowed. but that didnt stop me trying! i annoyed the teachers for months,
unil one of them told me that i wasnt living an acceptable life (!). well that pissed me off
severly, and later that day while reading the irish times, i noticed thay had a column for
teenagers and the problems they face. ah the naivity of youth (or rather about 9 months ago!) i
wrote in. and promptly forgot about it, until about three months after, i got a phone call from
the editor in charge of the column, who told me she thought thiss was a serious issue, and
wanted to make it into a news story, to go on the front page of th irish times in 2 days. i was
exhilerated!
although, while i was thinking of how great this was, a little voive in the
back of my head was going 'ahem, ais, your parents dont know yet'. so basically that evening i
had to come out, and tell them that not only was i gay, but in two days the whole country would
know i was. that did not go down well at all, somewhat understandibly! i was force to ring the
paper and tell tham not to run it, a decision i regret to this da and probobl always will, but
my parents were so unhappy with it. my mother rang my sister in tears and told her, she is ever
hopeful i will turn straight. and now they just completly avoid the issue althogether. yeah,
so a tip for anyone reading this about to come out; newspaper announcements are for births,
deaths and heterosexual marraiges only!

Posted by Charlie, at 18:01 on Thu, Jun 14th

I was way too lucky, coming out to my parents.

There was a Pirates of the Caribbean 2
premiere documentary on and that blasted Keira Knightley made me turn my head so fast that my
mum knew exactly what was going on. :P She told my dad and sister over dinner, they didn't
paticularly believe it (well, my sister did, having childishly called me a lezzer her whole
life) but it was a start and it got me through. :)

Now, I'm completely open with
everyone. Everyone I know has been fantastic about it and, being completely out, I've made some
brilliant new friends from gay club outings. :D

One problem I had, having come out
though is that guy friends keep trying to play matchmaker for me. ^^'

Posted by Emma, at 15:52 on Tue, Jun 12th

I guess i'm just one of the lucky ones, the coming out to both my parents (they've seperated,
so it happened twice with me) was filled with them reassuring me that they loved me no matter
what.

when i got my first (proper) girlfriend, my dad ended up asking me on the phone
as he knew i went to gay clubs. he was all, "are you trying to tell me something?" in a jokey
way. i was like, well "actually dad..."
hahaha

when i came out to my mum after
MUCH deliberating, and after being out officially for about 8 months, i didn't even tell her.
she asked me as her best friend told her, even though she knew mum didn't know, and mum cryed,
but now she jokes about it and shes fine with it.

to help out EC, who posted at 23:07
on Thu, May 24th, you can come out before having a gf, i did, and if your friends can't accept
you, then they arn't worth knowing. if you don't think your parents will handle it, you don't
have to tell them. its recommended of course, as if they find out from another source (as i
found out) it just makes it a hell of a lot more painful. i hope that helped :)

xxx

Posted by steph, at 11:56 on Fri, Jun 8th

ok well i always thought i was odd didn't really think about being gay as i never fancied
anyone but i wanted the hot girls 2 b my friend so it all kinda makes sence now! i was engaged
to a guy and a couple of other bf's but i was also having gf's to from the age of 15(my 1st
experience with a girl i convinced myself i couldn't be gay as i ran into the bathroom
afterwards and was sick!, but for some reason i kept going back) i was so confused i didn't no
what i was and i never told anyone! it carried on like that untill i was 17 when i decided it
wasn't fair on me or anyone i was dating so i ended my relationship and was single for a year i
decided if i was alone i would be able to get my head round what i was, my best friend asked
what was going on how come i wasn't going out on the pull anymore so i said i think i might be
gay she said no your not she wouldn't have any of it and said she couldn't cope with me having
another girl in my life that would be more important than her so i said yeah ur right im not
and carried on as before.
after my year it was time to go out and see i ended up at a gay
bar and my friend told me about this girl i was like yuck no short hair im not intrested! long
story short she was the love of my life! lol so i decided i had 2 tell my mum i sat her down
and after lots of heavy breathing i said i dont like boys she said you have managed it in the
past i think she still hopes its a faze my mum then told my entire family my dad didn't speak
to me for a few years and i was asked to leave the family home not apparently because i was gay
but?
but im 23 now and things are pretty much cool i just dont take my gf home much as i
know that they dont want to see it but im coo;l with that.
yeah so thats pretty much my
story!

Posted by me, me, me, at 17:05 on Sat, Jun 2nd

I dont think there is such a thing as "the right time to come out". Its not a simple sayng,
although its only two little words that have to leave your lips "im gay"!!!! I thought i would
never be able to say it to anyone, i couldnt say it to myself for a long time.
Id love to
be able to say that my "coming out" experience was lovely and acceptent but not at all. Here it
is anyway......
I had been with my girlfriend for about a year at the time and was still
living in the family home. I had no intentions of "coming out" to my mum until I was ready to
leave home, just to make it that bit easier.
My plan never worked that way. My girlfriend
went on holiday and wrote me a love letter before she went.... with expicit content of what she
would miss.... you know were this is going.... Anyway I was at work and my mum rang up..."we
need to talk......" then hung up. Boy I knew what was coming.
Nervous about going home I
went to a friends house for an hour. But Iknew i would have to face the music
sometime.
Well I arrived home to three bin bags on the step waahhayy, nope santa had not
come early..........
Anyway to cut a long story short, later that year we had a family
death and my mum and I got talking again.
Shes fine about it now and im still with the same
girl. Were engaged to get married, so all is good.
My view is once youve had the courage
to "come ot" to your parents you shouldnt give a shit who else knows. If they are going to
judge you, they are not worth knowing. Just be true to yourselves girls. You dont go around
asking people if they are straight. Its just plain rude........

Posted by cris howes, at 04:07 on Sat, Jun 2nd

Iread the coments here as a bitofan outsider , I too have the same jurny of coming out to
friends and family, are hope and feer's are the same but people consepsion of who I am are
differant from as young as I can remember I was told "Boy don't stand like that/ boys don't
cry"
at 21 my dad said to mewile washing the car son if your gay its ok with me and your
step mum, waw what an opertunity to come out . buti didn't ,Why because I did know , well not
really I knew I was differant I knew I didn't think of girls the way guys did but I didn't like
guy's eather ,infact I did even think of sex , the only thing that was wrong was getting naked
felt so wrong ,things weren't right .
cutting a lot out after dipresion, confution, and a
brake down, a trip to the Dr's lead me on a jurny of discovery and diagnosis of GID (gender
indentity disphoria) , lamans turms Female brain male body ( not a transvestite )
wow
enlightenment I know what I was ,I know why I had problems reverse parking :-) . but what
to do how to come out .my best friend Vee was shocked but fantastic. every one so far has been
great but all know nothing about it other than what the paper show . X soldiers in dress's . 2
of my guy friend wonderdwhy I hadn't told them years ago . I remember Kate and darril both
coming out . but in my head I still see the stigma of being TS as worse than being Gay .

every day things are sorting them selves out
all the best cris

Posted by Claire From Wales, at 23:43 on Wed, May 30th

All my life I always knew that i was different... but it wasnt until i was in my early twenties
that i fell deeply in love and egged on by my partner came out to my Mother that i was a
lesbian and always had been.
For a while she was disgusted with me, wouldn't speak to me
and living at home became like Hell on Earth because i honestly felt like i'd disappointed and
shamed her.
The other members of my family were really wonderful and supportive.
But
then my partner suddenly left me for someone else and my life pretty much caved in on
itself.
But then my mum was really there for me and helped me pick up the pieces and its
like starting my life all over again.

Posted by rute, at 11:48 on Wed, May 30th

really pleased for you... unfortunatly my parents were not as receptive as yours and i had to
leave home... but thats a story for some other time when im not at work getting paid to check
my space.com lol thanks for the read tho xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Posted by Emma, at 20:57 on Tue, May 29th

Again Im one of these people who dont really have a coming out story. It just took me a really
long time to admit Im bi.
Ok so I had the suspicions when I started that whoile pouberty
mess you know sneeking looks at other girls in the showers and so on. I just didnt want to say
as I was quite introverted and My friends were very obviously straight. Then I went to Uni...
ANd met my friend, shes wonderful and I always knew more could happen. It got all messed up as
I was in a bad realtionship and he really chattered my self confidence and tried to get me not
to see her. THere was a near miss thing and a few incidents but noiting substabntial. Then I
hooked up with my other friend hes really wonderful too...it all got a bit strangers in
paradise for a while. Its hard loving two people that much. So I decided to talk to my Mum. I
was absolutly petrifed convinced that she would go mental, but she had suspicions and was
totally fine. SHe told me to look at it objectivly who supports me and is there for me... He
got that one. He also accepts I like women as well (if not more so than) men, he just finds it
amusing that his partner has a bigger porn collection than him!

I still have my friend
and she will always dols a special place in my heart, but I finally realised I cant spend my
whole life wondering what if... it will just make me sad.I have lost come friends by telling
them but hey if they cant accept who I am their loss, I am happy to be me and Im a better
person for the experience.

Posted by Karen, at 15:32 on Tue, May 29th

meeting other gay people, and becoming comfortable with yourself being gay first is essential.
Then you can deal with any negative responses easier. Not that it was ever difficult for me. My
dad being a musician, having mixed with musicians and actors, ment he was used to being around
gay people, so it was never a big issue for him. Mum was cool, just a bit of a suprise, and
just needed to get used to it I guess.

Posted by Karen, at 15:32 on Tue, May 29th

meeting other gay people, and becoming comfortable with yourself being gay first is essential.
Then you can deal with any negative responses easier. Not that it was ever difficult for me. My
dad being a musician, having mixed with musicians and actors, ment he was used to being around
gay people, so it was never a big issue for him. Mum was cool, just a bit of a suprise, and
just needed to get used to it I guess.

Posted by Tara, at 11:57 on Tue, May 29th

Donna - what is your myspace? :-)
mine is: www.myspace.com/wizz_bang_mate

cheers!

Posted by Donna, at 16:23 on Mon, May 28th

I still haven't had the guts to come out to my family yet :(
I have a teenage son who
knows and my closest friends know...i only came out last year to them. Whether my son has told
my parents or if they have guessed i dont know. I keep hiding behind the fact that it shouldn't
matter what i do in the privacy of my home and that i've always been a tomboy so they would
probably already know so i don't need to tell them. Actually i'm just gutless. My work mates
found out because of my myspace page...somehow its easier to tell people you dont know because
you don't care about their reaction...like it or lump it!
I don't know if i will ever tell
my parents, maybe if i ever got a girlfriend i would rethink, but for now....whats the point?
The risk of upset and for what!

Posted by Strings, at 14:33 on Mon, May 28th

My parents were convinced that my admission of bisexuality was intended as a
"wind-up".

Just like the motorbike they thought I was "joking about" - and the tattoo
that Mum was certain was a "practical joke" transfer (for FIVE years).

Oh, the laughs
we had when those "wind-ups" proved more real than their fantasy of a perfect daughter. What
larks...

Posted by Leanne, at 12:53 on Mon, May 28th

I came out when I was 16 to my mum,I was on the phone to my friend in manchester who was quite
abit older than me and i said to her that i would do it the night my mum went on holiday only
if she would stay on the phone,so the night she was going i called her upstairs and said to
her look theres something i need to tell you and i came out as bisexual as that seemed like an
easier option then telling her i was gay .But it turns out she already knew she'd said to my
auntie a few weeks before that she thought i was im not sure how i think she must of heard me
having sex with my girlfriend! But my dad took it really badly, I have been out 6 years now and
everytime i go to see him he still ses to me look at him hes goodlooking aint he ,The rest of
my family were ok apart from my nan and grandad and my sister but as the years have gone on
they have all learnt to except it even my sister and shes the most homophobic woman you could
ever meet!

Posted by Katie, at 14:39 on Sun, May 27th

I found the whole 'coming out' thing very odd indeed. I had known all my life that I was gay
but it wasn't until I was about 14 that I could admit to myself who I was. I had found out at
the age of 10 that my dad was also gay although my parents tried to hide this from fear of
upsetting me, it was pretty obvious though seeming as my dad lived with a man and shared the
same bed! It made it difficult for me to tell either of my parents because I stupidly thought
that my dad would think I was trying to impress him in some weird way and that my mum would
hate me because her husband had left her for a man. I went through secondary school with a
really close group of friends who were a really free spirited bunch and so coming out to them
was probably the easiest thing to do. I also wasn't the first of the group to come out, 2 of my
friends had already come out by the time I had plucked up the courage. It seemed that by the
time I had finished school, 6 out of 14 of my school friends had come out! I still found it
really difficult to bring myself to tell any of my family and so I decided to tell my sister
first because we were really close. She was fine with it and helped me keep it a secret from my
mum. One night, a few weeks after my 18th birthday, I was in a really bad mood and me and my
mum were having an argument about the lack of school work I was doing and the amount of
clubbing I was doing during the week and it just sort of came out in the heat of the moment.
She told me that she already knew and that I shouldn't use it as an excuse for being so moody
all the time and have a lack of responsibility. It was the sort of reaction that I expected
from her, not full of anger but slightly disappointed. I think she probably just wanted one of
her kids to be 'normal' and be able to boast about one of them to her friends and family. Soon
after my dad found out and it was really nice to be able to talk to him about it in adult way.
It's been over 2 years now since I told my mum and she is ok with it now, I still feel that
part of her still feels some disappointment but I'm sure in time she will get over that. I
think the most important reason to come out is to be true to yourself and to feel more
comfortable with yourself. If you loose people along the way then they were never real friends
anyway. Now all I have to do is come out to people at work.....

Posted by Carly, at 22:40 on Sat, May 26th

Hey Carol, what TV show?

Posted by Carol, at 22:32 on Sat, May 26th

I came out late in life, not wanting to hurt family but supressing emotions have a habit of
coming to the surface and biteing you on the bum just when you least expect it. I came out
apparently in front of 4.5 million people on television. My best pal asked why? I just said
that it saved going through the same story time after time to all my friends. I never lost a
pal or any family member and I made so many new friends that I wished I had done it years ago.
This way worked for me and I had the opportunity but all said, it's not for everyone. The one
thing I did find once I came out was .................Love from a wonderful woman and we are
still together xxx

Posted by ailz, at 20:29 on Fri, May 25th

hey well here goes...

basically i came out to one of my mums best friends wen i was 17
and she told my mum my mum wudnt speak to me for liek 6 months then wen she started tlakin to
me my dad decided not to speak to me and still to this day he doesnt really speak to me
either!!

me n mum r pretty close now though n every time my heart has been broken she
has helped me heal it bless her :))

Posted by Kimberley E, at 20:26 on Fri, May 25th

Hey!
So i was sitting at the computer a month after my 18th birthday and my brothers best
friend walked over and sat down beside me. "When you decide to admit you are Bi let me know coz
i want you and i want to be with you" She said. Before that day i hadn't really known what
Bisexual meant, all i knew is that i liked men a little less than women. Anyway, a month later
i broke up with my boyfriend and started thinking alot about 'her'. Two weeks later i said yes
and we kissed. I told my family about a week later and because my brother had already come out,
my mum and dad were fine with it. We lasted two months in all! Im now with the love of my life
and im still not sure whether i am bi or gay lol!

Posted by sadie, at 19:22 on Fri, May 25th

I came out when i was 15,but i'd been going out on the gay scene for about a year before when i
eventually told my mum i was gay. Im a bit of a wimp so i wrote her a letter,i told her exactly
how i felt and how i hoped she didnt hate me etc etc the hardest thing was waiting for the time
i knew she was getting back from work and leaving that letter on the deak in the living room!
As soon as i shut the front door i felt sick!!! I just walked around for a bout an hour before
i eventually plucked up the courage to go home,as soon as i got in i ran up to my room,my mum
folllowed me up ,we cried hugged said we loved each other and we get on soo much better now,i
tell her everything! when she comes up to visit me we hit canal street and she loves it! i
couldnt wish for a better mum! so its not always doom and gloom guys!!!! :-)

Posted by Tara-Leigh, at 23:28 on Thu, May 24th

Hi all,
Well, my parents dont know. Im 21 years old, i live with my gf and we've been very
much inlove for over 2 years.
My mum is the old fasion "hows michelle? got a bf yet? what
about you?" kind of gal. As for my father, well...one word can sum it up - Alcoholic. He used
to be. He has been sober for a while now and mentioned to me one day "im sorry i've wasted my
life and to be honesst tara, i cannot remember most of your childhood" I was 17 at the time. I
had a gf. Those dark words that came out of his mouth really played on my mind. I was thinking,
well he doesnt know me from a bar of soap so why not tell him im gay? he cant say much after
all, to me he was a bad parent.
So i called him into my room one afternoon, my eyes full
of tears...
"dad, i dont know what your going to think, but i like girls."
*pause &
stare*
"really? does mum know?"
"no.. shed die"
"well, its up to you if you like
to carpet munch love, just leave it to me."
*walks out the room*
..anyway, a few days
later i was out with my gf and my other mate and my dad calls me from work.
"get home now,
pack your bags and get out of my house - i will NOT have a gay daughter! What did your mother
and I ever do to you!!"
*hangs up* (mum calls)
"tara! whats going on.. dad wants u out
of the house! asap.. He told me you like girls.. how could you do this to our family (lack of)
how could you do this to your mum? your my only child! I cant have a gay daughter.. i dont want
to be seen with a gay daughter!! turn that button off!"
So at that point, my heart sank
and life became just another level harder...
From then on, it has scared me to tell them.
I apologised to them and said im not gay, i like guys, it was just a moment. They took me back
& forgot about it. Little did they know, i still only had the 2 male mates and the 1 gf over
every weekend. I think they are in denial. How could they not know? As i said, i live with my
gf, we've been oversea's together.. its like we're married! they choose to be blind, mum still
mentions me getting a bf.

Sometimes i get fed up and just want to scream at them...
just so they know who i really am. Being the only child with a rough childhood, its hard to
find your feet as a person.. life became so hard. Though, now, im happy, im safe and im me.


I will tell them.. i just need the confidence to hurt my mum again.
*sigh*


thanks for reading :-)

Posted by EC, at 23:07 on Thu, May 24th

Just like Sara, I don't have a coming out story, and I can do with some advice too. The first
person that I've ever fancied was my English teacher when I was 9, and from that moment on, I
know I fancy women, as well as men. And then nothing happened in the next 18 years. I had
some dates with guys, I fancied them at the time, but whenever I get close to them, I just
don't get any excitment at all, which sometimes makes me wonder if I actually a lesbian rather
than a bi. But then I have never been with a girl, so I wouldn't know if I will get more turn
on by one. Lately, I have started to hint to my close friends that I fancy women. I used 'the
person' instead of him when talking about future partner, and I go on and on and on about 'The
L Word'. I think one or two of them is getting the hint, but I'm still to nervous to talk
about it properly.
As for my parents, I don't think I will ever come out to them unless I
started seeing a girl. Both of them and the rest of the family (and family friends) are all
really traditional Chinese, so I don't think any of them will take the news well. I just wish
that I will have a relationship with some nice girl soon, and then I will come out properly,
and I won't have to hide anything from anyone anymore. Does anyone actually came out before
having a relationship with another girl? If so, how did you convince people that it's for
real, but not a part of your imagination? I am just so confused at the moment, but I don't
have anyone to talk to, coz all my friends are straight. Please help!

Posted by Hannah G, at 23:06 on Thu, May 24th

Wow after reading all of these coming out stories mine seems a bit boring realli.
Well i
actually told my mum first cos we speak bout everything. It was all pretty cool actually we
were just chatting one night when i turned the conversation to my uncle (who is gay) and then
it sorta turned on to me and then i just told her. She was realli cool bout it and said she
always thought i might be. Then i told my auntie (who also apparently already knew!) it took me
like a whole evening and by the end of the evening because all of my cousins had been earwiggin
they also new and we had such a great evening after that just cracking jokes. I then told my
uncle, i went up to ealing to see him and in a cafe i just told him i had something to tell him
and he like straight away guessed and said that he always knew. (I wish all these people who
supposedly already knew could have told me it would have saved alot of confusion lol). Then the
funnest time was telling my grandparents, that realli didnt go so well i sat through a whole
dinner just wanting to scream at them 'IM GAY' but then after we had finished and been for a
walk (just to prolong the agony lol) i sat them both down and just told them, my heart was
pounding so hard at this point. My nan was like are you sure, how do you know all them
questions, my grandad didnt actually say anything and so far hasnt said anything to me about
it, i dont know if that is a good thing or not? The next day i felt like i was on a role so at
lunch time with my two friends i sat them down and said i had something to tell them, at first
my friend lou thought i was gonna say that i was in love with her boyfriend and my other friend
alex, as soon as she said i laughed and said 'no im gay, so hes not realli my type' She since
then has been a bit funny with me but oh well, however Alex has been brilliant, he likes to ask
alot of questions about being gay lol he doesnt know any other gay people and doesnt realli
understand so i had to educate him lol. But he has helped me so much especially when coming out
to other people.
Oh yeh and i told my stepdad and he was like 'yeh, and is that suppose to
make me think of you any differently? I love you for you', which was like a huge relief.
My
cousin who is a year younger than me thinks its great to have a gay cousin and she always
shouts out loud when we walk down the street 'DO YOU THINK SHE'S FIT?' which is
hilarious!
I told my best friend who i havent seen for like 3 years a week ago and we have
arranged already to go to brighton clubbing on monday lol, and she is coming to pride with me
which excellent!
I would recommend to anyone coming out do it as soon as possible because
prolonging it only makes it harder, so just do it and it will all be over with, like ripping a
plaster off!

Posted by Guest, at 18:26 on Thu, May 24th

Sara.... try some of the links in the article they might be helpful. Talking to your uncle
seems like a good idea. But really only you can tell if you're ready or not!

Posted by Sara, at 17:22 on Thu, May 24th

Wow...I don't have a coming out story about my parents, but I ahve told my friends. Most of
them just think it's a phase, but it's not. These stories have both made me excited and more
terrified to tell my parents...I was wondering...should I wait? I'm only 16, but I started
dating a girl and suddenly everything felt RIGHT. I was always grossed out by guys, especally
theyre body parts, and I've read that people who were molested, or something like that, alot of
times, turn out to be gay.
well, thats me.
I guess.
Should I wait? I was thinking
about talking to my Uncle about it because hes gay. HELP please. I know this isnt a site for
helping people...but I guess. I'm desperate.

Posted by Lisajayne, at 16:41 on Thu, May 24th

I came out about 4 months ago...im now 35 and a mother of 2 teenage daughters...but i couldnt
live the 'lie' any longer and split from their dad...he took it hard at first, but has since
admitted that he always thought all along that was the case...but he just wanted to believe
that i was bi...anyway, my whole family know now and are very supportive, especially my
daughters; if tey hadnt of been so accepting it would have been harder, but i still would have
done it. I dont regret the life that i led as a mum & wife, but i do sometimes wish i had come
out at a younger age...but it wasnt to be :), now im just happy being single and meeting new
women ...maybe at some point id like to have a gf, but its not top priority right now.

Posted by EH, at 15:37 on Thu, May 24th

Well... When I'd started liking girls from around the age of 10. When I started secondary
school I pretty much fell in love with one girl from my class. This went on for about two
years, but I denied for much of it that I was gay.

When I was thirteen, a girl in my
year and me became very friendly. Eventually she confided in me and we both told eachother we
were gay. She asked me out soon after and about a week after that I told my friends. Obviously,
some people were quite shocked but most people were fine and I havn't lost any friends over
it.

I started wearing a gay pride band and one day my mum asked me about it. I was
pretty embarrassed and reluctant to answer any of her questions. She was fine with it, she told
me she loved me however I was, which was really nice. My friends are all fine with it and so is
my brother.

I'm not sure whether the rest of my family know (aunts, uncles,
grandparents) but I don't really think they need to.

Overall, it's not much of a
comming out story! However, when I meet new people they always think I'm straight as I don't
really look like I'm gay and I'm still only fifteen.

Posted by Orla, at 14:46 on Thu, May 24th

When I first came out it was to my younger brother. He was 13 at the time and didnt care
really. He just thought that meant he didnt have to beat up any boys who hurt me which I
thought was sweet. My friends came next. One of my best friends and I had just came out of a
meeting (in a nuns house I might add) and we were sitting on the wall outside. I was texting my
then girlfriend and she was bugging me asking if i was txting my boyfriend when I had said no
about 200 times she then asked well who you texting hey baby too. I noticed my dad driving down
the jill towards me and said my girlfriend cya tomorrow and ran off. Later that day another one
of my best closest friends phoned and asked f i ad something to tell her, i said we would talk
about it tomorrow she was having none of it so i told her and all she said was oh thats ok i
thought you were pregnant lol. the rest of my friends kinda just got told after that in random
order if you were there and i was ready you got told with no warning. they all kinda had
already firgured it out and didnt care really they were just happy i was being myself (i always
was a little distant from them because i coulnt b myself) after all my friends knew and were
happy enough it was on to my parents. the final frontire. I came in one night after being out
drinking illegally with friends and my girlfriend at the time lol (i was 16) and sat down with
both of them. i was very nervous and aggitated so just turned round and said you's 2 both know
im gay right? my mum kinda had this stunned look on her face and my dad ust kinda nodded and
said yeh kinda. after that my older sister kinda quessed and now all my aunts and uncles know.
I told my 17 year old cousin who told her mum and she told all. my 11 year old cousin i told on
st patricks day of this year. she couldnt have been more supportive she was momre supportive
than my parents and some of my friends. of course i cant tell her everything but she doesnt
care and glad to know i was able to convide in her. shes very mature and really my favourtite
cousin shes my best friend in a way. But all in all I came out pretty fast but i wouldnt change
it because it let me be myself and i think my family and friends are grateful for me being me.

Posted by Lor, at 14:45 on Thu, May 24th

I had no problem telling my friends; most of them took it well & the ones that didn't I told to
fuck off :-)
My mam on the other hand; told he ronce when I was 14, she didn't really
listen to me. Again when I was 16 & she got really upset. When I was with my ex she got the
hint & is not alright with it :-)
I guess with some people it takes time to sink
in.
xox

Posted by ellie, at 14:24 on Thu, May 24th

I came out when i was 14 i think, i knew i was 'different' from an early age, i just didnt know
there was a word for it! There wasnt much talk about gays and lesbians when i was younger
(there was no talk at all actually) and when i realised i was a lesbian i had no idea how my
family would react! I was a nervous wreck for ages! I was always super close with my mum and
she could always tell when something was up with me. One night we were watching telly and i'd
badgered her into letting me have a few shandy's, i got a bit tiddly (to this day i'm still a
lightweight when it comes to alcohol) I was sat across the room from her, nervously twitching
and twiddling my thumbs. After about an hour of seeing me totally uncomfortable my mum turned
to me an asked if i was alright... which was like blowing the hoover dam, tears just started
pouring down my face! In between sobs i managed to blurt out the now immortal words ''I'm
queer!'' Amazingly my mum looked straight at me and said ''i thought you might be, and it's
not the end of the world'' I don't know what i was expecting her to say but i certainly didn't
expect her to have an 'inkling'! Nevertheless, i was relieved and can look back now and laugh
at my poor choice of coming out phrase!!
Telling my friends was something else, i only told
one close friend and after that i always felt that were wern't as close, like an invisible wall
had been put up. We're not friends anymore, nor enemies, life just took us in different
directions.
Anyway, i still had to tell my dad (my parents are seperated and don't
communicate so theyre was no chance of him finding out off my mum!) I thought telling my dad
would be difficult as we only used to see each other every other weekend or so. Plus,
throughout my childhood i'd put him up on a pedestal so the fear of rejection was super duper
strong!
When i was 16, i asked if we could go somewhere alone and he took me out to a park
in his taxi. We both sat in the back of his cab facing each other, my heart was thumping madly
and my hands we're shaking and i quielty said ''dad, i'm gay'' and brought my eyes up to meet
his. He looked down and let out a long sigh and said...."Thank god, i thought you were gonna
say your pregnant!" I laughed! He's totally cool with it, i can't believe i'd been so scared!

Not everyone has had a positive reaction to my being gay, but for me being loved and
accepted by my nearest and dearest is all that matters :-)

Posted by Lynn, at 13:41 on Thu, May 24th

I'm not too sure which category I would fit into. I kept it too myself for a long time and
finally told one of my friends on the last day of senior school. She was fine with it, and
nothing more was really said.
When I came back from Uni I decided that I wanted to be
around more people like me, so I persuaded a friend to go to a gay bar with me. I met some
really friendly, genuine people there and also my first gfriend. She was 20 years my senior and
I spent a lot of time round her house. My parents commented occasionally, but for the most part
nothing was said. It was when I asked if I could bring her out for a family meal that my Dad
asked if she was my gfriend. He took it really well, my mum said that she already knew, and my
sister cried. I think she took it hardest of all because she thought that she had either lost
me or didn't know me in the first place.
It was 3 years ago and it's like nothing had
happened, things are just the same as before I came out, except I feel more at home. I love it
now I don't have to hide.

Posted by L, at 12:51 on Thu, May 24th

Well, i fit into the first category quite comfortably...I went to an all girls senior school
and i was quite sure i was gay by the time i was 15, then i went to college to do my a levels
and met my now gorgeous gf, who at the time was my teacher.I was 17 and she was just turned 23
so the age difference wasnt too bad and we started out as friends, but id fallen for her from
the word go - i came out to her in her car about 4months into knowing her and was quite shocked
and excited to hear that her 2 previous relationships were with girls (but she was also adamant
to tell me she was not gay).Anyway things developed into a more than friends relationship and
we spent lots of time together and ended up kissing etc, all while she was still my teacher,
which trust me really isnt as fun as it sounds as i learnt when it came to my mum!She had
become suspicious of how much time id been spending with my lecturer - even though i told her
that every1 was mates with there teachers in college (!) - and one day she said "you're not gay
are you?", to which i replied "no, but what would you do if i was?" - next minute - "oh my god"
shrieked throughout our house - "you are arent you" - then came a good few hours of me and my
mum talking, crying and explaining and everything seemed to be fine,she was supportive and i
felt like a weight had been lifted - mum was learning how to be a counsellor at the time and
rang her best mate off the course who then got on the phone to me telling me how proud she was
of me and that my mum was so happy that id told her!Everything was going great and me and mum
decided that we should not tell the rest of our family just yet - that consisting of my nan and
grandad and my auntie and uncle - which was fine with me as i had not anticipated even coming
out to my mum and stepdad so early on. Mum totally broke my trust and told my auntie, who is
like a 2nd mum to me, who was absolutely appalled, thought i was a freak and said no niece of
hers was gonna be gay. Her saying this then made my mum totally change her opinion and
everything changed - suddenly it was just a phase, i was disguting, how could i do this too
them and that it was wrong to like girls, this was all made worse by the fact that i am the
only young girl in the family.Also my mum guessed that i liked my teacher and decided that it
was her that was making me think this and that she had "changed" me - which resulted in my mum
wanting to get her sacked - this caused total murder and i had to move out several times and i
left college b4 i completed my A levels to protect my teacher. I also had to take back what id
said to my mum, and agreed that it had just been a phase and played straight - which lasted for
about a year until once again my mum broke my trust and read my text msgs which undeniably
confirmed that i was definitely not straight!!She has now come to accept this altough it is
never spoken about, unless we are arguing, in which case she quite nastilly shows how she
really feels and as for my family - im not totally sure who knows - but at the same time i know
they all do if you know what i mean.As for my teacher, after i left college we decided to make
a proper go of it and got together, and we are still happily together 3 years on - my family
have accepted her to a degree which is nice - but she still denies that she is gay....so her
coming out story is yet to be written!

Posted by Gemm, at 12:43 on Thu, May 24th

Oh god, the coming out story. To be honest, my friends were the easy part. I was seventeen,
walking down to town for lunch with my friend Emma. We were talking about boys, and I was
saying how I "wanted" a boy who was a cross between the two gayest boys in the year. Then, "or
you could just find me a girl, that'd probably be easier", slipped out. Oh my god. She turned
to me and said, "What, so you're..." and all I could think to say was "Oh shit." Obviously I
was far more tactful telling everyone else.

My parents on the other hand, oh god. My
Dad decided I was acting weird, so decided to snoop through my internet browser history. Noting
I regularly visit a site called "Questionable Content" he decided he was going to talk to me.
It went something along the lines of "I'm worried about you, visiting these gay sites and
stuff. You could be doing anything on that computer." I replied with "What gay sites?
Seriously, name me one." He came out with "Questionable Content, what's that all about?" I was
laughing in his face.
"Do you want to see Questionable Content, Dad?" He shook his head but
none the less I got up, opened the web page, and made him look. "Questionable Content is a web
comic, Dad. Not a 'gay website'."
"That's not the point." He replied.
"Oh I think it
is. And how dare you be snooping in my browser history? That's such a shitty thing to do, it's
like following me around town seeing who I meet up with!"
"I'm just... concerned."
"If
you have a question to ask me, then just ask it."
"Fine! Gemma-Ann, are you
gay?"
"Yes."

My Mum was more difficult, we were on our way back from something,
driving in the car, when I yelled at her, "Pull over! Pull the car over!" She pulled over to
the side of the road, and I proceeded to tell her, in possibly the most awkward way ever, that
I was gay. She didn't seem happy with that, and was asking me questions even though I was
bawling my eyes out. They were really spiteful ones like, "Well, how do you know?"

"Because I like girls and not guys. How did you know you were straight?"
"BECAUSE
THAT'S HOW IT'S SUPPOSED TO BE!" and the like. It was a miserable time, because I kept
apologising, saying "I'm not sorry for being gay because that's who I am, but I'm sorry that I
couldn't be the daughter you wanted."

Basically, she now keeps making jokes about me
having sex with guys, and getting married, and stuff like that. Either she's forgotten or she's
just completely rejecting it. Either way, it was over a year ago I told her and I just can't be
bothered to do it again. She can like it and lump it.
My Dad... Well. I think he's decided
to block out the memory entirely.

Posted by Rach, at 11:18 on Thu, May 24th

mine was at a young age...about 15 i think it was. i'd been talking to a girl at school about
me being gay because noone knew and i was scared to let it out and tell everyone because the
school i'm in is pretty damn hetrosexual and i would be the first. so eventually i started
talking to her and she told me she was confused or bi or something and we ended up getting
together. after this i started coming out to my school friends. some of them were seriously
taken aback by it and really took it out on me more than her for example in the changing rooms
for pe. eventually i just went up to the one that was doing it the most and said "right... do
you fancy ___ or would you start staring him up and down in the changing room" she just laughed
in my face and said "ewww no" i jut laughed back at her and said "well what makes u think i
look at you then" since then she left me alone, noone likes being compared to the ugliest lad
in the year.
as for my parents, their first reaction was that it was a phase, and i think
it still is to them. i casually went up to my mum one day and said "mum...you know im seeing
amy? yeah? well...." and went on to saying something else like a brush away comment...i dont
know how she took it to be honest but i was shaking like a leaf. after that i told my dad and
he was pretty shocked and all...have i heard this right.. etc. but he's the kind of dad that
wants to give away his daughter to some noble young man and me a grandfather and suchlike.
explaining to him that thats not the person i am is pretty near to impossible. but one day i
guess i will.
as for amy...i learnt never to go out with someone who's bi or
confused...after we were together for a year and a half and she cheated on me three times with
guys. fun.
but ive yet to come out to the rest of the family...theyre kind
of...religious...

Posted by Leah, at 11:12 on Thu, May 24th

Well my family knew I had a new friend that lived on the other side of the city *hr away* that
I was visiting regularly. And my mum had dropped hints like saying oh if only Amber was a man
she would be perfect for you!! And OH amber really shouldnt drive home in this weather.. she
better stay the night haha. So finally after mum must have talked to my sister my sister comes
into my room when Amber leaves one day and goes 'is she your girlfriend?" i was like HUH??? And
said no hahaha then burst out crying and nodded. hehe then she was all good but didnt tell mum
til the next day. My sister rang and I was like oh why are you calling and she was like oh why
are you home haha she was going to tell mum! So I gave the phone to mum and my sister came out
for me hahhaa!!! I had already come out to a few of my mates (and my ex boyfriend lol) and yeah
within like 2 weeks my whole family knew because mum thought it was the greatest news ever
lol!!!

Posted by Holly, at 11:02 on Thu, May 24th

I had the feeling I was gay since i was like 11 and my first celebrity crush wasn't on a boy
band member, oh no, but on Carol Vorderman. I first met another girl who thought she was gay
when I was 13 and of course being the onlt other lesbian in the whole world at the time (we at
least i presumed so) we decided to go out. I wrote about this in my diary. A few weeks later I
come home to my diary laying open on the dining table at a rather explicit description of what
kissing a girl was like. Needless to say I bolted from the house. I was only 13 I was majorly
not ready for that yet. Turned out my dad took it to work because he wondered whether I was
taking drugs. No, no drugs - just lesbian experiences. Oops. I was sooooo angry because I never
had the chance to do it the way I wanted to!

Posted by emma, at 11:00 on Thu, May 24th

i did it the chicken way, got a little tipsy had planned on going home to do it, but felt the
phone was better.. called my mum, told her i had something to tell her but didn't no how to say
it, she asked what was it? am i pregnant? i replied 'i wish', so what is it? she said "are you
in trouble with the bank again"? "i wish again" i replied, so eventually i said "im gay" mum
said "how do you no"? "because im attracted to girls and not boys" 1 minute silence (which felt
for a life time) "say something mum" she said "well i don't no who's genes you got those from
cos it's certainly not mine or your fathers" she was ok with it, a little dissapointed as im
the only girl out of four kids, but she got over that, especially now she has three grand
children.
it felt like the hardest thing ever... but when i had done it, i wondered what i
was fussing about.

Posted by H, at 10:55 on Thu, May 24th

Ah i came out to my friends first they pretty much forced it out of me after taking me on a
long weekend locking me in our room and sitting in frount of me staring and asking 20 questions
untill i cracked. Then i told my sister i was 16 and she is 5 yrs younger than me and she
totally understood n said she loved me and it didnt matter. Then came the dread of telling my
parents, who i have a great relationship with, it took about 2 weeks eventually my dad could
see something was on my mind so he came in from the pub and i told him straight out, dad...im
gay. and all he said was i thought so n hugged me i was so relieved i cried. then came my mum,
i chickend out of that one and let my dad tell her. she was ok with it at first and tried with
my gf but i think deep down shes hoping that maybe just maybe one day i'll meet a nice guy n
get married and have a family and be "normal".

Posted by TiGGz, at 10:43 on Thu, May 24th

I didnt really have a choice of coming out.... my mum read my msn converstaions while i was
out. I was on the computer one night and she started going "is there anyhting you wanna tell
me?" and i was like "no" but she kept going "oh are you talking to your gf?". I couldnt work it
out, but then she told me she had read my converstaions, so i had to come out that night

Posted by jules, at 10:39 on Thu, May 24th

I came out only last year, i will forget that feeling of total dred. When i sat my mum down and
uttered those 2 words 'I'm Gay' the whole thing was overshadowed by the fact that my she
thought i was going to say 'I'm pregnant' I thought to my self, Pregnant! asif, nice to know my
mother thought so well of me lol. i reasured her that i wasnt pregnant, and never will be!! and
she was fine, although it wasnt untill a few months later that we spoke about my sexual
preference.
My mum said that it wasnt untill after i told her she realised how difficult
it was for me, she has since had nothing but love and support for me, she even said she would
sort out family members if they have a problem with it!
My mum even wants to come to Pride
with me, how great is that! lol

Posted by Amela, at 10:33 on Thu, May 24th

i came out at 16 ...after a couple years of denying my true feelings thinking there was
something wrong with me.. when i came out to mah best friend she said she thought so...she
coulda told me earlier woudlve saved a lot of confusion. haha. I used to have pictures of
angelina jolie and charliza theron up on my walls instead of guys... i told both my
parents...my father, being a muslim, chose not to hear it... and my mother, being kinda open
bout sex herself, just laughed it off. Im 22 now and i still dont know if either of them
believes me yet. They probably will when i bring my first gf home i spose... fun times ahead!

Posted by Garvie, at 10:22 on Thu, May 24th

I came out early...well I was forced out by my mother when I was 16. It was during my GCSEs and
I was having a long distance relationship with the only other lesbian on the planet (in my
teenage head). We used to write to each other and a few days after one of my letters
mysteriously 'disappeared' in the post my mother sat my down on the sofa for a 'chat'. She got
straight to the paoint..."Are you a lesbian?" (she said 'lesbian' in that whispered 'I don't
want the neighbours to hear' kind of way)...I think I blinked hard several times, burst into a
flood of tears (and snot) and confirmed her worst fear.
Being a Northern Irish parent she
didn't take the news too well and now, 12 years after the event she is finally beginning to
accept it. I think she likes the novelty factor, she used to tell me I wasn't allowed to let
anyone know because of the shae it would cause her and the family but she tells everyone she
meets about her 'lesbian daughter' tut tut!
I find the whole thing hilarious looking back!