Posted by Tolly, at 19:44 on Wed, Jul 2nd

I met the girl of my dreams on gaydargirls 2 years ago and am happier than I have ever been.
When I walked into the cafe and saw her she was so beautiful! We had a civil ceremony 6 months
ago and are now trying for a baby. We had both only met one other person from the internet
before so there might have been a bit of luck involved. I think its best to be totally honest,
but not too much information on your profile! And take your time getting to know each other.
Our only regret is that we didn't page save our profiles before we took them down.

Posted by Heather, at 14:52 on Sat, Jul 28th

I met my current girlfriend through the internet, i did not intentionally go looking for anyone
however things developed and we ended up meeting. the first couple of meetings were delayed or
cancelled however we eventually met. fortuanatly (?) she was who she said she was and i did not
arrive to be greeted by a 55 year old fat sweaty man (which a lot of my friends were convinced
this would be the case) we are now living together and all is well! so i guess internet dating
is not half as bad as its quite often made out to be!! xx

Posted by Ge, at 13:21 on Fri, Jul 20th

internet dating is a lenghtly and fickle business. one thing you need above all others is self
controll and just a general awareness, in dry areas such as cambs (where its all very
underground), its easy to forget yourself when searching for someone and in desperation click
on a nice pic and say "lets have a drink". you need to be able to judge character and recognise
patterns, it sound mathmatical but its not! you can tell alot about peoples character from
small pieces of conversation. if for example you spend hours and endless hours talking on line
but eventually end up at the same topic, this could indicate will be awkward, dont forget
typing gives you time to think, not everyone is naturally witty or charming! of course people
lie on the internet, it is the only place you can make yourself seem perfect and someone agree
with you, its a confidence boost, something which will vanish when you meet eye to eye. the
successfull stories are the honest ones! if your serious about finding someone then be honest,
be sure the other knows what to expect, and move to other mediums such as mobiles phones and
mms before you meet, have a certain amount of interaction away from the computer during normal
hours (not just 1am). it is very very difficult to find genuine people on the net, but when u
do, u can only wonder why you didnt try it earlier. i have had bad experiences of course, but
with it good. you think how you feel when your going to meet someone in person, nervous, wonder
what to say and what not to, remember they feel like it to! its a great way to force you out of
your shell, urge the conversation on, i found taking the piss out of myself works equally well
lol, and especially if they are out of their home territory, its that more nerve racking
because you loose your safety net, so meet on a neutral ground! somewhere neither of you have
been before. there are tips (not tricks) to meeting nice people, its just keeping your wits
about you and making things easier for each other not just yourself, before you meet if you
feel they may be hinding something then start by saying you should know this.... about me
before we meet, it introduces a comfort zone whereby the other person will be more honest with
you before hand and neutralise a shock, if u have built up a good enough base pon which to meet
them in person then you have a good enough one to be honest. just be aware is all! peace
lovelies :-)

Posted by Kel, at 23:53 on Fri, Jul 13th

I met my girlfriend on line and it was all a bit of a whirlwind, but she is my soul mate and we
now live together, it has been around a year and 7 months we have been together and I couldn't
be happier. Don't get me wrong I've had some bad experiences in regards to internet dating but
the above speaks for itself.

Posted by Kel, at 23:53 on Fri, Jul 13th

I met my girlfriend on line and it was all a bit of a whirlwind, but she is my soul mate and we
now live together, it has been around a year and 7 months we have been together and I couldn't
be happier. Don't get me wrong I've had some bad experiences in regards to internet dating but
the above speaks for itself.

Posted by Charlotte Wood, at 09:35 on Tue, Jul 3rd

Fresh outta Uni. got a job and missed the all-day buddies, all night parties, etc.

I
tried a few clubs and slowly built up some friends and things were ticking along; then I found
Val on GDG. Older than me it was kinda scary/creepy at first though she seemed nice and honest
so we chatted a while - me keeping this "old dyke" at (virtual) arms length.

As time
went on she was ... well ... there when I wanted to "spill and chill" - spill my guts and chill
chat. She prompted to meet, I prodded "delete" but still kept in touch.

One thing to
another we decided to meet. We met up in a public place with my mobile speed-dial set on the
local police and my mace in my pocket.

We said hello, our eyes met, mine crossed and I
nearly ran a mile. Not 'cos she was minging or scary but she was amazingly like she portrayed
herself and more!!
We had got the "favourite colour" and "best bud" and "when did you first
..." stuff out of the way and all we needed to do was enjoy eachothers company.
We
certainly did that for several years.
We could've moved on but we decided I needed to
spread wings and stuff first - dumb move - I am still trying to get back with her
now.

It can work - you have to be as careful as you can and try it. Nothing's like
the real thing though - so don't rely soley on the online stuff

Posted by Grace, at 02:02 on Fri, Jun 29th

After a couple of shaky starts with internet dating (ahem we'll just call them shaky to be
nice) - I met the girl of my dreams online. This was 7 years ago. We started out being
friendly, considering each other good friends, and then we met. Sparks flew and we have been
together ever since. So, for me, internet dating has proven to be a blessing.

Posted by Archer, at 16:57 on Mon, Jun 25th

Ive not technically done the internet dateing thing....but technically have....:S hmmm
explanation, well im one of the rare few that dont join gaydargirls and other sites to 'hook
up' infact i met lots of my friends on gaydargirls, (I suffer from anxiety and mild ADHD so
Alot of people dont like to approach me in real life because im 'odd' :S ) so i tend to meet
friends online, let them get to know me and even though they too also find me 'odd' they know I
mean no harm out of it, so I think if used correctly the internet is a really good way of
showing the real you without the fear that your hyperness etc might put people off getting to
know u....I dont think ive honestly met anyone on the net with the pure intention of sleeping
with them.....I met one girl and got in a 7month relationship with her, I met up with her she
seemed nice took her out to a pub where the girl she fancied happened to be, she asked me tht
night if she was starring at her crush too much and i responded with "actually no...u kept
starring at me though" one week later we got together, never met any weirdos i have a little
routine when i start talking to people, at first i swap msn addys, then chat on cam to them,
then swap numbers and at first txt them at awkward times of the day, then ill just randomly
call them on withheld number to make sure im not being tricked by a guy (withheld number if
they dont have cam) and if they ask "why u on withheld?" i just respond with "huh? sorry my
phones playing up keeps doing tht" never met any weirdos through it.....YET

Posted by stephanie finegan, at 01:05 on Mon, Jun 25th

ha ha baby you are indeed a wonderful weaver of weird web-wondered words! i cant believe you
slipped in that phone call - god she was a nightmare!! Keep em coming...its like getting to
textually have tea with you reading these!! love you xx

Posted by Dida, at 23:51 on Fri, Jun 22nd

I tried internet dating and seem to fail at ever meeting anyone. Being a little shy and hey
just the way I am. I chat a while to someone then they vanish is insane. But I am still
trying. I am part of that 75% that dont go out on the scene so guess that leaves me very small
places to find those lucky single ladies

Posted by Laura, at 20:07 on Tue, Jun 12th

great article

I have to admit i must be some sort of looser cos i joined a few lesbian
dating sites and very rarely get a reply from anyone and when we do chat we only chat for a few
days online then they suddenly stop talking to me...i've never met a girl from the net
before...only a few guys who pretended to be girls online grrr i hope they die
horribly!

One thing that i get alot (that i really hate and feel uncomfortable about)
is when a girl adds me to msn and she aint interested in a conversation all she wants is to
watch me on cam so she can ahem do things to herself while constantly asking me to show my
breasts....i'm not into that at all lol so yeah where are all the nice girls???

Posted by emmapirate, at 19:07 on Thu, Jun 7th

My worst internet dating experience occurred when I actually got off my fluffy cybercloud of
lurve long enough to study the lady-in-question's gaydargirls profile
*properly*...

Only then did I realise there was a photocaption that I should've paid a
little more attention to, and that I wasn't actually chatting ardently to the vampish, femme
fatale blonde on the left, but rather the humourless, flat-chested, crew-cutted ginge on the
RIGHT, who I'd blithely assumed was a gayboy chum who'd muscled in on the picture...

Posted by Stace, at 23:19 on Tue, Jun 5th

Firstly... one legged? :| oh my ham. Adequate description though!

Internet dating is a
revolution. My ex-best friend met her boyfriend online on a forum and they've been together now
in person for almost 3 years and she's very very happy.

I saw how happy she was and
decided to try this out for myself and needless to say, i found the most amazing woman on a
forum! However there was one problem; she lived in australia. Now.. we got on so amazingly well
and i couldnt ignore this. When we first met she said she was visiting England after exams so
naturally we had hope and excitement to hold on to. A year rolled on and those 6 weeks were the
best of my life.
In fact, they were so amazing, i'm currently living in Australia with her.
We've been together for 2 1/2 years.

Give the internet a chance, it can work woners
for your lovelife. x

Posted by Noodle, at 20:59 on Mon, Jun 4th

Brilliant article... I think we've all been there, I certainly know I have and luckily they
didn't all end in disaster!! Although there were a few I'd rather forget ;o)

I read
somewhere recently that only about 25% of the gay population actually go out on the scene, so
really that means there is another 75% hiding themselves away somewhere... perhaps using the
internet to find that special someone.

I think in many cases it works a treat and
people really do meet the love of their life, but if you're going to do it I think you need to
be prepared to kiss a few frogs before finding your princess.

:o)

Posted by Linda Mason, at 18:56 on Mon, Jun 4th

Well I met my girlfriend online, celebrating 5 years now! I say go with your gut, and just hope
that she is being as honest as you are! I used gaydargirls x

Posted by Abyitia, at 14:04 on Mon, Jun 4th

Internet dating I think is great - I personally am going to meet a girl on Wednesday which I'm
looking forward to :)
But it can turn into a bit of a disaster - Evidently shown from the
scenario below which actually took place:
Him: Why hey there gorgeous what you up
to?
Her: Not much just playing with myself whilst talking to you on the computer
downstairs, I have to be quiet, my 19 year old son is on the computer upstairs
Him: Mmmmm
kinky, where you from then beautiful?
Her: Madison, Wisconsin, brb my son just shouted
me
Him: Hey I'm from there too.... wait a minute.... MOM?!?!?!
Her: Sh*t sh*t sh*t!!!
Paul????
*logs off*

Posted by Tereza Watkins, at 16:00 on Sun, Jun 3rd

Whoever said 'The camera never lies' was either full of s**t or just unbelievably hopeful!!!!
How often have you looked at a photograph of a so-called 'Hot-Chick' then upon meeting them you
vow never again to go online whilst under the influence of vast amounts of alcohol
................but the most amazing part is that these people do actually believe they are
drop-dead gorgeous..............but then i guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Posted by Tara-Leigh (Austrailia - NSW), at 00:38 on Sun, Jun 3rd

Internet dating, to me is a winner. I agree with Jen Carrie... a person becomes more confident.
Some people mention it is unsafe, but its only for those who speak to a person for a short
while and arrange a meeting. I double check they are online for all the right reasons. Ask for
photos (alot of them) have 'different' conversations, spend at least 3 - 6 months plus getting
to know them. You would find that your connection with that person becomes so much more
stronger and you cant wait to talk to them again.

I've met alot of ladies via
internet. Sure, some are not relationship material, but a good friend or fling is good
anyway?
I met my girlfriend over the internet over 2.5 years ago on gaydargirls.com
(start_playin) and we spent a few months taking, sending photos. Once we knew it was more than
a friendship, we swapped numbers and spoke on the phone for a few more months. I got to know
about her family, friends and just sharing all we could. I went down to her place and when we
first met, it was such a strong feeling...
Anyway, we have been together for 2 years now
and loving every bit of it. I love the fact we met online, it gave us a chance to relax and
just be ourselves, with not worrying about anything. In our own time.
We now live together
and have many future plans together.

For those people who worry about meeting
"freaks" online, its something you may come across, but its so obvious when you do, so you have
the ability to shut them off, move on and meet someone else. Sure, its a risk.. But so is going
on a date with that person you met last saturday at the mall. Live outside the square you live
in and give it ago. You'll love it.

xxx

Posted by Marie Gilmore, at 08:43 on Sat, Jun 2nd

I dont think you should knock anyway that you get to meet new people... i mean how often do we
just go out and start making new friends with anyone let alone gay women. its hard enough as it
is. I never had the confidence to chat to anyone on a night out i didnt know let alone chat
them up. so the internet was an easy way to meet people. I chatted to a few women and it was
ok. they all seemed nice enough apart from the few men who pretend to be women and the slightly
nutter one who used to chat to me! ha ha ha but when i 'met' Paula something was different. we
had seen each other around on other sites and said hello or sent winks etc but never actually
had long chats and never met for real. when one day after being sent another link from my
friend who was trying to make me meet someone i sent her a friends request. and we started
talking. properly. It was strange because i didnt have any worries about meeting her for the
first time. i just was so excited i couldnt wait. when i got off the train i saw her getting
out of her car and the sun was shining on her hair and she just looked SO beautiful i couldnt
take my eyes off her. we havent been apart since then. we have now been together for nearly 2
years and have had a civil partnership the day before christmas eve. I have never been this
happy and if it wasnt for the internet (and yes you Jen for sending me yet another link to a
dating site) we would never have met. She is the most beautiful person i have ever met and I
still cant believe my luck!

Posted by ailz, at 23:07 on Fri, Jun 1st

well my thought son this subject are fairly mixed...

i have met a few ppl offline from
the internet some ended up gud mates and some ended up good realtionships so ther eu go;)

Posted by Lor, at 16:58 on Fri, Jun 1st

I've never dated per se over the internet.
Polly was my internet gf who I met all of
twice.
I was 15 & a little naive. It was fun while it lasted though.
xox

Posted by Me, at 14:48 on Fri, Jun 1st

Not my experience, but the experience of straight friends who I know online.
They've been
members of my forum for just over a year now and for some reason started e-dating. Now, I don't
see what's wrong with planning on meeting someone to see if you like them, but these guys
decided that they were boyfriend and girlfriend before they'd even met. Did I mention he's 17,
she's 24?
They met for the first time in April and all went well. We were all secretly
happy that it had turned out okay, because we were all wondering when it was going to crash and
burn. Well, that was until she left a message on her LJ telling how she's planning on moving in
with him. After meeting him ONCE.
She won't listen to reason - we don't want her to make a
big mistake by leaving her friends and family behind to move in with the guy (he apparently has
aniexty that means he can't work, but he can visit a rammstein concert). She claims they're in
love and won't listen to what anyone says and claims they're jealous if they try and intervene.

I like her a lot (as a friend) and we don't want her to do something so stupid. Is anyone
able to give me any advice for how to tackle this, please?

Posted by CJ, at 02:32 on Fri, Jun 1st

Three cheers for internet dating! Hip, hip, HOORAY!.. Hip, hip... achhh, you get the
point!


Basically, it all depends if you're proper "into" personalities, or if you
just SAY you are not to appear shallow.

I do agree, there has to be a level of
attraction.. I mean, you're kidding yourself if you say it's ALL about what's on the inside,
but everyone can lie and pretend to be someone or something they're not, whether they're behind
a computer screen or across the bar from you.

I've met girls in clubs AND online and I
can honestly say when I'm chatting to someone online I do find myself being a bit more.. what's
the word.. frivilous (oooh, saucy!) with my words, because you're missing the one main
ingredient of the great lesbian hotpot when emailing.. BODY-LANGUAGE.. and sometimes, the other
person just can't understand what you mean because they can't see how you're intending to
phrase it!

Bottom line is, my current gf is a girl I first became friends with through
a website. She was just another girl who happened to have a girlfriend, and someone I was more
than happy chatting away to, and eventually texting back and fro. Then, when we met in person
on a casual night out with friends, we realized that there was an attraction there more than
friendship which we wouldn't necessarily have ever discovered if we'd continued our friendship
through text!

But above all you've gotta remember, be careful online, cuz yeah..
there's some proper weirdos out there.. in real life, too.. but.. BUYER, BEWARE!
:)

Btw, this questions for the writer of this.. where the hell are you FINDING these
girls that you write about?! Is it wrong I want their email addys?! Haha!

Posted by Riggs, at 18:49 on Thu, May 31st

I think I've become a serial internet dater, bar one girlfriend, my last 3 relationships came
from gdg. (Just to clarify, all these relationships have lasted more than 18 months, I’m not a
hoe, honest!)

I don’t really understand the level of dishonesty that people display in
profiles, at the end of the day, (even if you do just want to get laid) you're going to have to
meet somebody face2face. If more people embraced the internet and the truth then I think
internet dating would be so much easier and far less looked down upon. Personally I don’t have
the best pictures of myself up, I have a fairly varied selection, you could call it the good,
the bad & the ugly!

Also I’m very open-minded and quite confident and I find that it
helps, even internet dating doesn’t come without the possibility of rejection. In fact I tend
to find that rejection during internet dating can be so much worse as people don’t seem to feel
the need to be polite as they often do in a one on one situation.

People labour under
the misapprehension that internet dating is for the socially retarded or the shy and nervous
amongst us. I’m always impressed by people who set out to meet their online friends; it’s not
an easy thing to do. Generally speaking if I go up to a woman in a bar, I'm usually drunk, call
it dutch courage if you will.

Whenever I've embarked on my internet dates, it’s not
really been possible to turn up drunk! It takes a lot of guts. My last first date (forever I
hope) had me standing at the statue of Eros (how romantic) for 45 minutes waiting for my date,
femmes do have a habit of being late, whilst my stomach churned away wondering if she’d seen me
from across the road and done a runner.

I’ve only suffered one hideous internet date
and that was mainly my own fault, I took no time to get to know my potential date, I saw her
picture and thought “very nice!” and she was…a decade ago when the picture was taken. The
youthful, attractive blonde with flowing shoulder length hair had been replaced by a thickset,
short-haired prison warden who drank pints. Would have been great had I been looking for that,
but I wasn’t. things rapidly got worse, the tube ride to a party revealed that this woman was
in fact, Upton park! (Two stops short of Barking) After laughing at a Swiss tourists crocodile
shoes to their face and badgering a German couple into arguing about the war, we walked into
the bar where she bought me a drink and pinned me to a wall…I was rescued by a fabulous woman
and have never seen said crazy lady again!

Internet dating is socially acceptable
amongst us gays it seems, I think many people are aware of the cruisy way in which some
sections of the gay community use the net but know it’s not how things have to
be.

Unfortunately it is yet again the straight community who struggle to accept new
ways of interacting and dating. A few tragic stories of gold-diggers and the world thinks it’s
the most dangerous dating activity known to man, say nothing of the hundreds of thousands of
people who get plastered every Friday and Saturday night and wake up god knows where, with who
knows who!

Take the necessary, common sense precautions before heading out the door to
what could be your very last first date and embrace the fact that you didn’t have to queue,
fight, sweat and spend a small fortune to meet someone who can hopefully at least entertain you
for a couple of hours, if not love you for a lifetime.

Posted by Becci, at 16:58 on Thu, May 31st

I actually tried internet dating once, without really meaning to, was just having a perv on
gaydar n started talking to a girl. Because she lived in Belfast where i was from originally
but moved to Manchester for uni, we just chatted on msn and texted n rang each other. Then she
had the chance to move to Manchester n took it so we eventually met after a year of
speaking.....now weve been together for a year and live together and are engaged. It feels like
weve been together forever coz we took so long getting to know each other before meeting, but
also everyday is exciting because we are so in love....I never in my life thought i would meet
someone on the net but now i have my princess, i love her to pieices n am so happy she is
mine!!
Becci xx

Posted by Sarah Davina Harrison, at 15:18 on Thu, May 31st

For me Internet dating was the only option. I first went to a gay bar in 2000. I had just been
to a wedding in Mansfield and my friend Paul was begging me to drive us to Leeds. He wanted to
see his boyfriend. We both lived in Thirsk North Yorkshire. A small market town. You probably
haven't heard of it unless you like watching all creatures great and small and like James
Herriot the vet. The only gay bar's worth going to were in Leeds

Well my biggest
mistake was that I wore a dress. We went to Queens court. Most people thought I was Paul's fag
hag. I felt like everyone was staring at me. Perhaps I was paranoid who knows. Anyway I got a
bottle thrown at me and called a slag??????your guess is as good as mine.

I turned to
the Internet. My first experience wasn't good she just used me for you know what. Which wasn't
that bad but I was looking for a relationship something more. I meet a girl in York who said
she was thin and into all the things I was. She turned out to be really big and that desperate
she scared me half to death. undefeated by the whole experience. Also thinking third time lucky
a girl named Claire wanted to meet me.

We meet in february 2001 she was gorgeous my
dream come true we had been speaking on the phone for months we felt like we knew each other.
It was love at first sight for me. We spent the night together(i know on our fist night naughty
me) The next week I went to her house. I booked the week off work and she skived work for the
week. We did everything cinema, bowling, pub's club's meals out. We had a fantastic
time.

Three weeks later I packed everything and moved out of my parents house to live
with her. I know very fast but we felt like we had found each other we are soul mates. She was
18 and I was 20.

In 2006 we had our civil partnership and we have a 19 month old
daughter. Which I had through donor insemination.

So you could say that I 100% support
people who look on the Internet for love. Has long as you are careful it can be the best thing
you could ever do for your future happiness. Take care xxxxxx

Posted by Charlie, at 14:35 on Thu, May 31st

I have nothing against using the internet for dating, I have done it myself if the past - but
it only left me broken hearted. You see I meet this girl on a student website, which also had a
gay/lesbian forum, and after her finding my profile we began talking, just as friends. Mostly
we would write emails to each other because she didn't have an instant messenger. Every time
there was an email from her waiting for me to read in my inbox my heart would skip a beat. I
really thought I was in love with her, but I didn't want to tell her or anyone because they
would think I was an idiot for falling for someone who I had never meet and lived over the
other side of the world to me.

After a about a year of talking, we confessed our love
to each other, and decided we wanted to be together and the only thing stopping us was the
distance. We made several plans for her to come over here but they all failed, due to mostly
family reasons, but some of the stories were too elaborate and made me doubt she was real. I
would have flown out there in a flash if only I had the money to do so, even if it was only to
find out she wasn't real. I have tried to ring her but the number never works, and she has said
shes tried to ring me, but again the same.

After about 3 years the emails just stopped
coming. It made think that she really didn't exist, but then again who would keep up such a
facade for 3 years?

Every now and then I get an email from her saying how sorry she is
for not keeping in contact and gives several excuses, telling me how she still wants to be with
me and plans to come over. I do reply to her, but I don't hold out on her promises.

So
I tend not to talk to people online anymore because I don't want the same to happen. Also I
find it hard to meet genuine people online and also I'm scare if we did meet up, they wouldn't
like me or find me attractive. So it's time to get back on the scene and go out to clubs with
my mates.

Posted by Adeline Dallman, at 14:35 on Thu, May 31st

Okay ive done the internet dating thing and ill be honest they turned out to be complete
nitemares who totally screwed me over but i have learnt from this experience. On moving to
mancs i didnt really know anyone but my ex thanks to the likes of gaycom n gayblah i now have a
great bunch of mates who i have known for several years now n r some of my closest friends so
it works in diff ways n i have seen mates who met people off the net and aer in fantastic rels
a few years down the line my advice just be careful some people arent who they make out to be
and there are many genuine peeps there to give em a chance xx

Posted by Toast, at 13:50 on Thu, May 31st

Hmm to be honest Im not sure about the whole internet dating thing, I mean to be totally honest
its not my kind of thing... but hey if it works for you then ya know fair enough...just Im sure
theres alot of straight perverted guys behind those screens pretending to be a woman...ya never
know! also like you said the whole internet persona they could be totally not like that at
all.. like myspace for instance..yes I have one but I dont think it actually tells alot about
me..it has a few facts ect but I dont think it lets you really know the person..if you get my
drift? I mean Id rather get to know someone rather than talk to them over the internet for a
period of time and then decide to meet up. also I know my words are all mixed up and do not
make sense..Im crappy with words.. and really I dont think my point is across on this one but
hey..I might come back later when Im in a better state of mind =P

xxx

Posted by Jenny, at 13:47 on Thu, May 31st

I have met two lovely ladies over the internet, i used to live in a small village where gay
women were either in a couple or plain crazy so i went into a chat room, not to pick up women
but just to chat to people outside where i lived. I met a few people from the site but only
dated two that ended up quite long term relationships. The first lady i was with made me
realise being gay isnt "wrong" and with her help i came out to my family and friends. We split
up after about 15 months but still 5 years on we are very good friends. The second lady i was
dating we got on so well we even lived together for a time, again we split but are still good
friends. I agree some people i have met from that chat room are nothing like they say they are
and are compleat loonies when taken away from a computer but there are some great people around
and sometimes the only way to meet them are on line because of the different areas. I dont go
in that chat room any more as i moved away from the village where i used to live and am to busy
drinking and chatting women up in a bar rather than on line but i would never rule it out. x

Posted by Amy, at 13:16 on Thu, May 31st

Well, I have mixed thoughts on internet dating. There is a stigma attached to it, especially
where straight people are concerned. Gays understand that our dating lives are harder, purely
because of numbers, and have embraced internet dating, whilst straight people are still a
little bit; "why can't you get a date in real life?"

Anyway, I think it's good to look
at peoples interests and pictures on a profile to see if you do have any initial shared
interests. Meeting in bars or clubs are usually spawned from alcohol and sometimes the
desperation to pull at the end of the night. This can often lead to false promises, being lead
on etc.

You know where you are meeting people off the net. What you're both looking
for, a little bit of knowledge about them before you go for the 1st date. It can help. You
obviously get the nutters, or the people who aren't who they say they are, but someone drunk at
a bar can soon change personality when they've sobered up!

I found love on an internet
dating site. Real love. I screwed it up though and we split up 5 months ago but I'd still meet
up with someone I'd met online.

You just need to remember that if you consider
yourself a stable, attractive decent human being, then it's completely plausable that out of
all the people online, there's bound to be another. Perhaps even for you! (or me..)

Posted by Michelle Fraser, at 12:46 on Thu, May 31st

I have only had one actual experience with internet dating. While i did chat with a few girls
(and mostly couples pretending they were just the one girl), I found one girl with a photo who
matched an actual personality. I decided early on that there was no way she could look like
that in real life. Amazingly, we met up without even having to arrange anything. I walked into
a bar and she recognised me from my picture and it went from there. We ended up dating for a
year and a half to varying degrees of success. But there's no denying she was hot and
interesting (if not a bit on the crazy side).
I know a couple that met on the internet and
are now happily married. They seem perfectly sane and settled too. I am personally going to
steer clear of internet dating for myself (for reasons other than your own.) I'm not concerned
about the physical imperfections in the slightest. My internet foray ended on physical
perfection... Just a shame we couldn't get along so well past the bedroom.

Posted by Jennifer Carrie, at 12:44 on Thu, May 31st

not quiet sure wat to rite, but i think internet dating is good thing. A person becomes more
confedent when they arnt faced with the face to face problem. so it becomes easyer to show the
real you and the same for them. i met of girl of the internt. she was very confused and shy.
after a month of chatting we met and she hasnt looked back since. she is now bi and proud.
still in the closet but she can only do that in her own time. we arnt dating but we have become
very close. The internet is just like meeting someone in a pub or club the risk are still the
same, its wether ur willing to take the risk and let yourself be you.....and yeah ihope thats
the sorta thing u was looking for lol peace an love x x x