Posted by Serahlaena, at 04:30 on Thu, Aug 30th

My ex sent me a text on Valentine's Day this year telling me she had feelings for someone else.
That's not what upset me though. The thing that did was the fact I knew this was happening, but
when I'd confront her about it, she'd deny it.

It was the lying about it that got to
me the most. Now, we're still in contact and are great mates, but she continually send mixed
messages; buying me gifts, sending cards, the way she words her text messages. It's ok though,
because there's no chance of us getting back together.

(she also lives in another
country now)

Posted by Siobhan, at 17:27 on Thu, Aug 16th

My fiance dumped me after 2 years together for a friend of mine who coincedentally was datingmy
best mate. Me and my mate had each other to get us through it but it still didnt go to well til
about a year later when my exandi grew up a bit and became friends again...now we get on like
ahouse on fire and it's great...we're also muchmore in tune with each other now that were
frinds and theres the prospect of it happenin all over agagin lol

who knows....

Posted by Dani, at 13:47 on Sun, Aug 12th

women can b right fuckers, dnt get attatched to fast is what i say, take each day as it comes
dnt tie your slef down till you oth feel comfretable n shiz, just have fun with life while your
still young, tieing your slef at ayoung age is no good thing. its a shit way of dumping sum1
and childish, she could have least hadt the disantcy to brake up with u a "nice" way [if there
is a nice way] ad let u down gently, by txt is a back stabbing kinda thing to do. hope your ok
now though hun much live Dxx

Posted by nic, at 11:40 on Fri, Aug 3rd

well just reading this is mad,my gf dumped me after a 2 year relationship i gave her everything
she ever wanted also treated her like a star, she still texts me now all the time asking to
meet up and sort things out but the fact is that she never turns up and is just totaly
stringing me along,i would do anything in the world for her and take her back no matter what
she ever did to me its mad lol all my mates tell me to get rid and that shes a real cow but i
just keep getting hurt but i dnt want her out of my life and i know she is just playing games
with me,im out in manc tonight and maybe i will have it in me to move on maybe i wont because i
know that at the moment shes the only girl for me and belive me it does really hurt,esp when ur
used to being with some1 24/7 and doing everything u do with that 1 person and 1 day they just
up and leave u to pick the peaces up grrrr at her....

Posted by Lor, at 16:51 on Thu, Aug 2nd

We went out for a year. My first & only serious relationship to date.
She dumped me & broke
my heart.
We can't stand to be in the same room anymore.
I wish it wasn't like
this.
xox

Posted by k.b., at 23:38 on Tue, Jul 31st

ouch. being dumped is a terrible experience. especially when you loved that person enough to
never want to seperated from them. it hurts even worst when, you still love them. when yuo are
trying anything, old and new things to keep them in your life. its mainly the reason why loving
someone now is too hard to do. its almost scary. i try opening up and then i pull away. i try
communicating, and then i be silent.i try being strong but then, i fall apart. if every couple
could be up front about their intentions in the relationship, there would be no room for
suprises.

Posted by melanie, at 16:11 on Mon, Jul 30th

well, i've never been dumped, always been the 'dumper'. seemed as though my partners were
always fast to fall for me, but i never saw what i wanted to stay with in them. my ex and i
were together for 5 years (when we met i was 17 she was 24), i really tried to make it work,
but alas, it turned out she was mentally insane, and cheating the last 4 years or our
relationship, i moved out and she stalked me. Now however it is a lifetime since that horrid
bump in my life, and now
@ 27 i am happily married to a beautiful woman and this july 31st
is our 2 yr wedding aniiversary (marriage being legal for same sex couples in canada), we've
been living together for 4 years now, have a house a car, good jobs, fuzzy babies galore. So
keep in mind all single hopefulls, no matter how much it hurts, or how 'unfair' it seems, time
heals all wounds and it will always work out for the better. Especially if they are cheaters,
you are better off finding someone real, no matter how long it takes.

Posted by Emma, at 13:59 on Mon, Jul 30th

I was with my girlfiend for about 4 and a half years, when she decided that she was going to up
& leave me for a woman 13 years older than us, all this when there was major changes going on
in my life (parents splitting up, starting a new career, best mate moving away) she was
thoughtful like that! During our relationship i gave up too much for her, i gave up uni, a lot
of very good friends, and pretty much my social lfe too, as i gave up so much i started to get
shit on...... from a very great height! after she left me i went through the usual drinking and
smoking far too much, crying whenever i heard a song or saw something that reminded me of her.
The ironic thing is though, that her girlfriend who she is supposedly engaged to isn't the sort
of missus stealing whore i called her for the first 6 months of their relationship! She's
actually a really lovely woman and to be honest i really do feel for her, being with my ex!
However, i think the joke is on me though, i'm convinced i'm still in love with my ex, even
though i'm happy that she's happy, is that weird? Hopefully one day someone will make ME
cupcakes and i'll be able to move onwards & upwards & all that!

Posted by Sarndra, at 09:12 on Mon, Jul 30th

I have never been dumped, however I have had my heart broken. I just broke up with my
girlfriend of 4 years, we got together when I was 18, lived together for the past 2 years and
then a month and a half ago she turned around and said that she doesn't know what she wants in
life anymore and doesn't know if she wants to be with me, so I turned around and basically
called it quits... very difficult! This happened on a sunday night, I went to work monday being
all brave and not crying, got rather inebriated that weekend, spent the next week at a friends
house as a way to escape and forget. I obviously still miss aspects of our relationship,
however we still currently live together and we are still really good friends. Being single
does have its advantages though :)

Posted by lambie, at 02:40 on Mon, Jul 30th

My first relationship was at 18 and it started out casual. But I quickly fell in love, only to
be dumped 3 months later. The worst part of it all was that a few days after we broke up, she
told me that she had fallen in love with me and didnt realise what she had until she lost it!
After that I thought we might get back together!? But aparently not...we are now best friends
and get along very well. We definately have our ups and downs, but I figured that as long as I
can still have her in my life, even if only as a friend, it will all be good!

Posted by me, at 01:38 on Mon, Jul 30th

I have just been "dumped"...by text no less so this article hit me where it hurts! We are
trying to be friends at the moment, I hope it works just because I dont think I want her out of
my life but we shall see! Great article!

Posted by Orla, at 00:23 on Mon, Jul 30th

my last gf and i were 2gether for 2 years i moved 2 liverpool to be with her when she moved for
uni. after bout 4 months after proposing to me in liverpool she told me she wanted 2 break up
just because i was having trouble getting a job and she was sick of holding down the fort
basically. needless 2 say jan 2 march beofre i moved bk home i dont reali member it was mostly
filled with listenin to our music wile downing raw vodka and smokin a hella lota cigarettes
also i kinda turned in2 an alice (from the l word) and stalked her jst a lil bit lol . but
after 7 months we r friends an actually wking well 2gether shes til in liverpool and im in
belfast but there hav bene talks of gettin bk 2gether coz i know shes my one bt i kinda like
bein single bt i want her at the end of the day yano lol

Posted by danielle, at 05:48 on Sun, Jul 29th

well my currnet gf has told me tht we are on brk and that she need to figure out what her head
is thinking and the brk will do me good to like if some1 has a brk arent thay supposed not like
msg or see one another like she asjked for the brkand then she goes and msgs me and invites me
to hers for a bbq wtf im confussed

Posted by Helly, at 00:57 on Sun, Jul 29th

i got dumped last week. i got the "call" while i was off sick from work. the needing space
lecture and wanting time to think speach. she needed to know how she felt about me and wanted
to be single for a while. since we started working together things got a little strained
(apparently i didnt think so i thought i was the best thing ever) I had a week of being told we
needed a break 3 times and oh no we are ok 3 times before she finally said the immortal words
"i wanna break up". Yes it hurt, yes its still hurting nothing in my mind has changed i still
love her and want her back madly but as they said, its easy to fall inlove but harder to be
made to fall out of it.

Posted by MAYniac, at 00:38 on Sun, Jul 29th

Okay, I include this story of being dumped so that you know they don't all end badly, and
sometimes the world doesn't screw you over as badly as you expect.

I have been with my
current gf for about 2 years (almost). Instant attraction and chemistry, we both dropped the
partners we had at the time to be with each other.

After a year of intense passion I
saw it starting to fade a bit, that's natural...So I after another 6months it was starting to
seriously lag. After some serious discussion we decided that we didn't have what we used to,
the passion was gone and maybe we should split up. So we did, still sharing a bed
tho.

All the while, I kept niggling at it...Why? I don't know.
What happened? I
don't know.
Do you still love me? .................................
Ouch. That's a no.
I was expecting it, but it still hurt.

So I spent a week drunk, then sobered up
because I had to clean for a rent inspection.

2weeks into the breakup she had booked 2
weeks off of work for "holidays" (it was medical stuff actually but anyway...) that 2 weeks
with me was what was needed for her to realise that she did (and does) still love me. By the
end of that time we were back together.

We still are. I love her, and if anything I
find our brief breakup reassuring. I feel that our love has faced one of it's biggest tests
already, and we're back stronger and more in love than ever. And I'll drink to that. *grinz*

Posted by M, at 21:22 on Sat, Jul 28th

we were fighting for a week about everything and nothing then she decided to dumped me during
morning rush hour in the subway on the way to work basically in front of everyone that happen
to be there.. which they all stared at me while i was trying not to cry in public.....the thing
is we used to work in the same mall so she kept coming to my store and say mean stuff to me on
a daily basic for a good while and been my first girlfriend and all i was hoping we would get
back together...

we are friend now actually she is one of my best friend these days it
did just happen it took a few months for us to be friends and she apologize and it happens
that she treats her friends better than her girlfriend!!!!

Posted by kop, at 21:08 on Sat, Jul 28th

i was dumped 2 years ago i was so hartbroken she was my first girl she did it by txt a few
weeks later i found out she was cheatin on me the whole time and that she was leavin to be with
that lass i have never felt so used like that. i now talk to her only wen i go down to visit
friend. she is marrid now and i get on with her wife we have a screem together

Posted by Patsy, at 20:54 on Sat, Jul 28th

I totally understand!! I moved to a different country to be with my girl.. she said she was all
"IN" and wanted it to happen. Within about 2 months I was dumped! I moved my whole life to be
with her. (mistake number one) I relized that I should never give up who I am to be with
someone. We are friends now... and she has since apologized. Nothing took away that pain except
learning to love myself and forgive myself for making a mistake. be true to you baby!

Posted by Cori, at 18:32 on Sat, Jul 28th

yeah i got dumped about two moths ago or so. and i am still not over her. we were together for
over a year...and i believed it would be forever...it is more of the latter that i am not over.
wanting someone forever is hard to let go of. we are totally still friends...i am friends with
about 95% of my exes....good ol' being a lesbian...LOL

Posted by Nicole, at 18:11 on Sat, Jul 28th

Jees so strange, saw this article just pop up on myspace and after what happened to my
yesterday it just freaked me out a little.

I was on my way to meet a girl i have been
seeing for a few weeks, just an inoccent trip on a train to leeds. I arrived at the station and
called her to see where she was. After waiting for a reply for around 15 mins i decided to wait
in the station bar, i ordered my drink and sent a text explaining where i was. I sat in the pub
drinking and waiting for over half an hour before it started to enter into my head that in fact
maybe she had stud me up.

I drank and drank thinking she would arrive at any minute,
i know how ladies like to be late and make an entrance. After my 4th drink i decided to take a
strol around the train station as i text her a further 5 times. This was just getting silly,
she obviously wasn't coming. I was so angry, no explanation or call. Then i began to make
excuses for her, what sort of emotional person does that. Maybe she got hit by a bus or
something on her way over here or maybe she has lost her phone and she is searching the
station. What planet was i on? well after 5 bottles and a shot it obviously wasn't this one.


After another few drinks i called all of my newcastle friends to see if maybe i could
go up so not to have a wasted journey. I was a total of £1.40 short of being in the newcastle
scene checking for new talent.

After my plans fell through i decided maybe it was
time to return home, i picked myself up and headed for the platform finder to get me the hell
out of this station.

As i sat waiting for my train i began to write a final message,
something along the lines of "thankyou so much for wrecking my day and upsetting me so much"
this was not one of my best ideas. As the train arrived my heart sank and i boarded and sat by
the window checking the platform in the hope that maybe she would be there. The train pulled
away from the station and tears started to role down my face, luck for me i had my sunglasses
tightly to my eyes in an attempt for my emotions to go un-noticed.

The train arrived
back into blackburn and i headed straight for my local, drinks flew down my throat like you
would never believe. The shock of this whole day had set in and maybe she turned up and saw me
then thought better of it and left without saying.

I began to get more irational and
drank myself into oblivion, making the hugest metophorical hole by even phoning my ex for
comfort. This didn't help matters either, my head was up my ass hole and i had no one to blame
but myself.

Looking back on it today it makes me even more upset. I woke up this
morning just thinking "oh my god it wasn't a dream, this really did happen to me".


Then i recieved an e-mail, yes it was her. I knew it would be some sort of excuse but
i was still curious as to what it might be. I began to read the novel like e-mail as she
explained in great detail that her friend had been hit by a car. Was this true or was this just
another excuse? I didn't know, i had no idea what i was going to do and i still don't know now
after pondering it all morning.

Why do people play such games? surely if this was a
honest thing then she could have found the time to phone me? especially when in the e-mail she
admitted to falling in love with me. Wouldn't you just phone someone if they were expecting
you? even if it was just to let them know you wre ok?

i will have to think about it a
little more but untill then i will drink this vodka and feel sorry for myself just a little
longer.

Posted by Sammi, at 17:18 on Sat, Jul 28th

My last girlfriend, I NEVER met. It was an online thing which went on for about 2 months. I'd
vowed never to get into this kinda "relationship" ...but it just happened.

Anyway she
broke up with her real girlfriend to be with the virtual one (me!!) after chatting for a couple
of weeks. She said she couldn't be unfaithful, which I gave her big props for, but I still had
that strange feeling that karma was around the corner.... But I liked what she wrote and I
liked her voice, so I thought, what the heck.

She was pretty possessive too, but, I
thought I can deal with that. One day she told me she loved me, and I laughed ...out of sheer
nervousness and cos I thought things were crazy as we still hadn't met!!! After my reaction,
she sent me a hurl of text abuse and subsequently blocked me from her webpage ... I managed to
finally talk her 'round though, and we got back together.

Cut a long story short, she
broke up with me a few weeks later and a few days before we were to meet. Hell hath no fury and
all that ...so, I sent her the rudest/crudest, most horrible, vilest text message ever which
subsequently saw her delete me from her MSN. I thought of so many horrible things to do, but in
the end, I didn't.

But, she's still online dating ... and telling girls she loves them
and she ain't even met them ....ISSUES!!!! And no, we don't talk at any level. Don't think I'd
even rcognize her in the street.

Posted by jj, at 17:09 on Sat, Jul 28th

I've dumped and been dumped; always face to face I hasten to add!

My last relationship
was a a bit of a mare really, lots of arguments and occassional bitchslapping. She ignored me
a bit too much, preferring to spend time on her PC rather than on the sofa watching TV with me.
Having been together for 2.5 brilliant years, followed by a year of talking to her back I
decided enough was enough and sought revenge by getting my own PC and online life. Thats when
I met a really special girl who showed me that my happiness was more important than staying in
a relationship just for the sake of it. We flirted heavily and my girlfriend found out, I
kinda dealt with it in a bad way looking back on it now. I'd already found myself a new flat
in a neighbouring town, ordered my fone line and iNET and bought furniture, so the break-up was
inevitable. We both realised there was no going back.

We had months of arguments and
recriminations, both blaming eachother for the demise of our once perfect relationship but now
after 3 years apart we are best mates.

It took a while but we got there in the end

Posted by Willowspuppy, at 16:18 on Sat, Jul 28th

I dumped my last girl as i couldn't deal with the feeling she was having for a guy - yes girls,
she's Bi. I was heartbroken, distraught, watched A LOT of Buffy to get over it. I was the
perfect Ex to her, considerate, caring, offered advice when she was going around whoring
herself to anyone who'd kiss her, but secretly i plotted my revenge. She works @ Butlins, and
WAS a big pothead. Until i anonemously emailed HQ detailed that most of their staff were on
drugs. Next day, the drugs tests start, and she's had to pee in a cup now every month for 4
months! And had to give up MJ! Haha. That helped me get over her more than
alcohol/chocolate/random sex eva would have.
Jokes kinda on me tho, as a month or too later
we got back together. Still not sure about the whole thing tho, but i'm sure if i told her
about the email 2 HQ, i'd have a pretty good 'get outta jail free' card! ;)

Posted by Arch, at 15:41 on Sat, Jul 28th

ive always been the dumped one, im only friends with one ex now, that break up didnt hurt (as
it was a mutual decision) but i dated a girl once and i thought everything was fine, she was
abit of a nutcase though but meh, and one day im sitting in the park with her and were just
sitting their, her in my arms chatting away and suddenly those words came outta her
mouth...from nowhere! "i think we need a break" ?!?! then she said "not yet though i want us to
still be together for my friends birthday" I thought she was joking!!....who on EARTH MAKES A
DATE FOR A BREAK UP...WITH THE PERSON THEIR BREAKING UP WITH! that killed me when she actually
did end it, 7 months down the drain, 4 months off never leaving my room apart from to buy cigs
and alcohol and obv when nature called, good thing is when my mates finally had enough they
dragged me out and i met a girl :D she dumped me..but it didnt hurt as much.

Posted by rach, at 15:31 on Sat, Jul 28th

ok so i was 19 and my ex was 36, old, hagged and my boss (im not bitter at all). it was my
first proper gay relationship so naturally i moved into her house within days of getting
together. Know how ppl have that magnetism that just draws you in, well she had that and it was
so passionate. A few months later we went to a bar with her old mate, they dissappeared to the
loo for 20mins, the other girl comes down cryin. I was dumped!!!!! i lost my house, quit my job
and had to fall back into the old routine at home of "mum, of course i see boys". my only
revenge would be for her to see who im with now!!! haha

Posted by Tara, at 14:59 on Sat, Jul 28th

I became head of feet for this bi-sexual gal we really hit it off I was besotted untill i saw
her in a bar she apparently didn't like with her ex fiancee (bloke) with his arm around 'her
chair', i was engaged to her & everything we finished offically the day after (valentines day
06) as she didn't come home. It was hard but i endulged in work, college & alcohol, i came out
of the dark hole within 2 months but even sfter it still hurts. We didn't talk for 10 months
but now we can not be seperated we're best friends all over again, tease eachother, drink,
dance & laugh although my g/f don't loike it i think it's fab to be close to some one that
ripped ur heart out in public & stood over it a million times LOL we talked sorted everything
out, she told me she still loves me last week i said let's just be friends & went home to my
gal. I'm so proud of myself & know i can make things work even in pain.
But would've loved
some cupcakes :-) x x x

Posted by jess, at 14:53 on Sat, Jul 28th

ok i've never been hurt by the end of a relationship, maybe it was because i haven't been
dumped but i am still confused about my ex-girlfriends actions. i was wonderin if anyone has
had something similar happen or if they understand it.
ok my ex cheated on my because she
said we fought too much and she wanted me to forgive and forget but when i found out about her
cheating i didn't feel hurt or angry i felt that we would be better off as friends but by that
she told our friends she was heartbroken.
and i'm just wondering if anyone understands it
cos i really don't.

Posted by Jo, at 14:51 on Sat, Jul 28th

I was dumped on my 20th birthday. We went through the stage of avoiding each other because she
found a new girlfriend a week after we split. 2 years later we are now in the awkward stage of
meeting on drunken nights out and not knowing what to say to each other, while her fiance sits
and wonders while there`s so much tension. Once ive had 5 pints the night goes well and we all
chat and have a laugh and i remember why i fell in love with her the first time round. We have
promised we`ll always be friends and be there for each other. I am also great friends with her
fiance. It is true that time heals a broken heart, mine just took longer than expected.

Posted by tara, at 14:47 on Sat, Jul 28th

my girlfriend got dumped by her ex girlfriend a while ago but she still heart broken she keeps
telling me that her ex is still in her heart but she doesn't love her but she cant tell me she
loves me all she says is can we take it slow how slow should i go with her n how long roughly
will she finally tell me she loves me

Posted by stef, at 14:24 on Sat, Jul 28th

My first love i was 18 and adored her i was dumped by text 6 months before i had found texts
on her phone regarding some girl that she fancied turning, nice! so we were flogging a dead
horse anyways but safe to say i was haertbroken and still am 3 years later, so i think all the
advice of eating sleeping around drinking iv done it all and its all rubbishthe fact that it
was done by text doesn't bother me just the fact that iut was done atall!, i honestly belleve
she was my one and im destined to end up a sad lonley bitter old lesbian stinking of wee! oh i
can hardly wait! lol

Posted by ..mwah.., at 14:19 on Sat, Jul 28th

my last girlfriend dumped me and we got back together then i dumped her, i suppose the old
saying is right, 'you dont know what you've got until its gone'... i too spent the whole of
march, and april, puffy eyed crying into a pillow! i tried alcohol, chocolate, then i stopped
eating all together. suppose i didnt take the best approach!! i am though friends with her now,
we talk now and then! xx

Posted by Manc, at 13:39 on Sat, Jul 28th

I'm always the one to get dumped. Dumped by text twice, by msn four times.
I'm friends
with all but one of my ex's now, one of them is one of my best friends cos we figured we worked
better as friends and we now are as close as you can get to another person so it all worked out
well.
When dumped I always find the best way is to get out with your mates way more, my
mates have a way of making me forget them and obv get the we'll go smash her face in but all
you need is friends really and tissues haha :P
Everything'll work out fine with time and
dependin on how long the relationship and the closeness you'll probably end up friends too,
after the healing of course :)
x

Posted by Lou, at 13:26 on Sat, Jul 28th

Yeah I got dumped recently, I went to see my girlfriend and all was well, came back to find
that I was dumped. She said she never felt the same as what I did! What hurt most is it took
her three months to tell me. I tried to be friends with her because she is a friendly person
but she is still ignoring me and I did nothing wrong..

Posted by yvi, at 12:59 on Sat, Jul 28th

Yeah i got dumped abt 1 year ago.I thought she was the love of my life for abt 3 years.but in
the end i found out it was just wasted time.she spent all of my money and cheated on me like
crazy.in the end she ended up with a bf and i have since abt 1 year a wonderful gf.in the end
everything went positive

Posted by Karen, at 12:59 on Sat, Jul 28th

You know that in the end all lesbian break ups end with you being friends, thats my personal
favourite stage, when your expected to go out with her and her new girlfriend when you still
want her! ***HUGS 4 U***

Posted by miss cupcake, at 03:24 on Sat, Jul 28th

Who needs intercontinental violence when you know you've got numerous friends ready with lead
pipes or tinkling with the brakes of the new girlfriend's truck? If that fails, there's always
the cupcakes... =D x

Posted by Brothaww, at 21:51 on Fri, Jul 27th

Can i comment here?? I dunno.

The offer of intercontinental violence still stands!! x

Posted by TheCanadian, at 17:39 on Fri, Jul 27th

I've been dumped once or twice, but I never seemed to stay heartbroken for long. I actually
haven't remained friends with any ex's except for one, my very last boyfriend before I
discovered my love for girls. In fact, he still comes to me for advice or just someone to
listen to his problems which I think is really sweet because we've always gotten along with one
another.

Posted by Danni, at 09:18 on Fri, Jul 27th

Why do people always suggest sleeping with someone else to get over your x?

Posted by KELLY, at 01:37 on Fri, Jul 27th

LOLOLOLOL I WILL TRY THE TOMATOES INSTEAD OF ICE CREAM NEXT TIME!!!!

Posted by Stacie, at 01:24 on Fri, Jul 27th

I was dumped via text message once also that actually hurt me more than the fact the
relationship was over!