Posted by Ash, at 02:56 on Sat, Mar 1st

I think women in general are fit, I dont think in types, i think in colours and moods and
surroundings and laughter and moments. Anyone can be fit, irrelevant of size, colour, etc etc,

lets face it ladies, whether its the freshly showered well prepared business woman, or the
hot mechanic that come out covered in oil from under a car...BOTH are just as sexy, and
generally you spend most of your time kissing their lips on their face (unless its a quick
fumble) and so isnt it the facial features that attract the most...achne is probably my hardest
thing to overcome. Anything other than that....im all good...

Posted by Archer, at 13:49 on Tue, Dec 18th

Iam extremely unattracted to skinny/thin girls, I have a mate who i think is a size 6?? and i
musta turned her down a hundred times (which she hates because this is a girl who is never
turned down!) i like my girls to have something to hold on to..and plus im scared of sleeping
with skinny girls incase i break them lol! (im aware you cant but if their like a twig you cant
help thinking about tht) it would be pretty hypocritical of me to say anything bad about
following the crowd, as im currently trying to get thinner but unlike most girls im not trying
to get skinny, just more toned, but i know what you mean about the gyms, and if you aint
diverting your eyes you got huge muscle girls bullying u off machines, i went to a gym once i
got the weight machine litrally lifted one weight and this big muscly girl came stood over me
and coughed as if to say MOVE, then just leered at me, bloody hell! lol!, i say nothing wrong
with a few extra pounds.

Posted by Julie Bateman, at 21:48 on Fri, Dec 14th

I am attracted to PEOPLE. People that are sexy, confident, funny and enjoy life. I am not
attracted to or fit into any form of labelling ie. lesbian, bi, straight, fat, thin etc. Isn't
it a more appealing quality to have the self confidence to enjoy who you are and also to enjoy
discovering these qualities in others? Celebrate our differences and touch one another on a
deeper level. Beauty is after all in the eye of the beholder!

Posted by hanley, at 13:25 on Sun, Dec 2nd

im only ever attracted to very thin girls, i dont think it is a conscous decision though, i
dont think you can choose who youre attracted to any more than choosing to be gay or straight!

Posted by JP, at 18:19 on Sat, Nov 24th

Fat can definately be fit. i have thishuge crush on a larger girl. her size really doesnt make
a difference!

Posted by Charlie, at 15:10 on Sun, Nov 18th

I know how you feel about size i always look at myself and think if only i had the will-power
to lose some weight and then i think why should i i like who i am and thats all that matters
(dont you agree?). I have recently become single and by going out confident and happy i dont
have a problem pulling. So if you are happy with who you are then thats all that matters x

Posted by Em, at 21:55 on Thu, Nov 8th

Well myself i am far from a sheep, i do my own thing, dress my own way, hang out with people i
find fun and interesting and really just do what i want. I dont believe in doing things just
because it is seen as cool and popular. I mean why should we? isnt being unique and different
better than being the same? wouldnt that make life a bit boring?
Now that is not saying i
do not look after myself because i do believe that is also important. I enjoy staying healthy,
fit and looking good. (not saying that it is wrong if you do not agree with me, we are all
entitled to our own opinions) but as i am a athlete for my country, i do indeed work out, twice
a day, six days a week. However i do not do it because people will think i'm cool or awesome
doing it. I do it because i love sport and hope to bring home gold for GB in 2012. It really
doesnt bother me what people think, i do it because i enjoy and love to do it and even if i was
not a high standard athlete. I would still work out because i enjoy it and it refreshes me.
Anyway girls as ive stated i think we should all do what we want, being unique is beautiful. It
doesnt matter whats on the outside, it matters what type of person you are. By that i mean i am
said to be very attractive and cute but also people say im very caring and fun loving and if i
did not have those personal qualities. Then i would be worth nothing. I find girls for what
they are not what they look like, sure you may find it attractive but if they have no
personality, then that is a huge turn off, and can you say thats wrong ?
Hope you're all ok
and having great days
Em

Posted by Hanzi, at 16:41 on Thu, Nov 8th

oh and btw, taryn, size 16 is fat? My jesus girl you must be the person who creates the sizes
for highstreet shops. lol. You wouldn't date someone fat? Well lets hope they would never wanna
date someone arrogant.

Posted by Hanzi, at 16:38 on Thu, Nov 8th

I think the fact that were discussing image in such a way makes whatever image choice were
talking about irrelivent. "Is fat fit?" Not chaning anything just moving the goal posts on how
to conform.

Personally, Im a big girl. Not the type like "Oooo I'm a 14/16!! Im
huge!!" Proper big. And Of course I have issues about it, as much as any one who is really
skinny has issues or someone who has a relatively big nose or whos left earlobe is slightly
larger then the right... everyones got something, it's just different degrees. It's human
nature to compaire and contrast, and while we do we will always worry that we don't quite fit
in or add up.

So I think everyone should chill out n just pay attention to who ppl
are, not what they are, coz marking one thing as "fit" is just another way of saying the
opposite is "unfit", and thats just not nice.

Plus, you know that those who obsess
over image n boast about how they look n all that shit only do it coz they know they basically
got feck all else to offer someone, who'd wanna be like that??

Posted by katie, at 23:53 on Sun, Nov 4th

i am quite a small person compared to all my gay friends expect a few. but i have to say i dont
mind wot size girls are yes there is a limit i guess but only in tht they r unhealthy. dont
worry about ur self if ur happy thts all tht counts. Ignore every other person its up to u how
u look jus dont let others make u feel bad for it. I have been with super slim girls and rather
large girls and i think they r all great and super sexy in thier own way. x

Posted by Louie, at 01:45 on Sun, Nov 4th

ok i am a big gal and i find as long as i am healthy and active and dont just sit eating
chocolate and actually make an effort to look and FEEL nice then i dnt think ive been
discriminated! if people arent attracted to me that is their preference! as long as im happy i
shud attract someone to me hopefully still looking for that lass but hey ho im only 18 still
got time lol xxx

Posted by Erin, at 00:36 on Sun, Nov 4th

This is like an age old debate. Quite frankly, it seems to me that "slim" vs. "fat" is the new
butch vs femme debate coming from a new angle. For years the gay community, who preaches
tolerance and begs the wider community for an understanding of diversity, has had a traitor in
it's ranks. The "preconceived notion" that people identify one way or another, and can be
easily slotted into a nice little category for latter inspection.

Really, is it eer
that easy? Fat can be fit... that was the question right? Being fat myself i can tell you my
blood pressure is fine, as is my cholesterol. I play sports with my mates, and am known to kick
arse and be way too competitive!

Maybe we as a community should just people by there
moral or ethical stances rather than their appearances. Maybe we should practice what we preach
and be accepting of diversity?

Posted by Sally, at 18:43 on Sat, Nov 3rd

Until very recently I have always had girlfriends who were tall and slim. That was until I met
Sara. Sara is exactly the opposite. I don't think it matters what size you are. If we were all
the same the world would be a very dull place.

Posted by taryn, at 14:43 on Sat, Nov 3rd

Im going to make myself unpopular here and say that I don't like fat women. My gf is a big
women, size 16, but she's incredibly fit (in the sporty sense). In fact all of my gf's have
been bigger than me, me being size 10-12, but they have also been in the gym every week and
playing sport on weekends. Being big women didn't stop them being healthy and toned women. So
no, I wouldn't date a fat woman. I don't like it when women aren't prepared to care for their
bodies.

Posted by Emma, at 12:13 on Sat, Nov 3rd

It just so happens I was out at the local gaybar with two friends last night. We neither of us
slim, but one of my friends is a very big girl which lead to some comment about cranes being
needed to get her out of the place.

I find it incredibly sad that while we are used
to being taunted for our size, we now have to cope with it from lesbian who should know how it
feels to be abused and ridiculed for being in a minority. Although, if you listen to the
papers, we are all actually getting fat now and slim is becoming the minority.

The
young 17/18 year olds have the slight excuse of youth on their side. I just hope they realise
in years to come exactly what they did, when they no longer have youth and beauty on their
side. Let's hope they develop a personality instead of relying on their looks
alone.

It's the women who are older that vex me. Surely by the time you reach your
40's you've seen more, learned more and have more brain smarts about you then to be supporting
fattist comments, or even starting them yourself!

If you are a fit and active woman
who works hard to look the way you look, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting a
similar body type. Truth be told, I don't find the very slim attractive at all yet no-body
would call me slimmist. At the same time though, I wouldn't go around calling these girls
twiglets, or telling them to go eat some pies or asking if they were anorexic or anything like
that. I just ask that people have a bit of respect. It seems that insulting fat people is the
last thing that has not been made an issue of. You can no longer make racial slurs, no longer
discriminate against the sexes and homophobic comments will get you a reprimand. So why pick on
the fatties?

Posted by leah, at 09:45 on Sat, Nov 3rd

i am a well proportioned size 22,with big boobs,shiney hair,good smile and im house trained
,popular,funny and smell nice. what more do women want?im not a fashion icon but how can i be
at size 22.i dress well for my shape and im not afraid to fluant what i have .i think lesbians
need to wise up and remember its not all about looks and what you wear. this could save women a
lot of heart ache if relationships and first impresions were not built on looks alone !

Posted by lynzo, at 13:25 on Fri, Nov 2nd

well... im a comfy size 16- 18 depends on the labels... hmm. have been told by people to lose
some weight and i'd be gorgous!!! which of course ment they were soon binned after... pisses me
off when u get small minded women ... or yuck dare i say it men! lol. sayin oooh lynzo u have
such a pretty face.... shame about the rest... have always been told to get down the gym even
by my own father!!! i jus love chineses too much!!! damn u sweet an sour!!! haha. nar on a
serious note i have a beautiful sized ten 18 yr old on my arm an im 26, i must be doin summat
right when she cuddles into my back at the end of the day an says she loves my bumps an
humps!!!!! lmao xx

Posted by Ana, at 11:52 on Fri, Nov 2nd

I'm a big girl and i love the way i look, i have never felt a presure to fit in or look a
certain way, i have my own unique look and if ppl dont like it, tuff shit! i certainly dont go
out of of my way 2 look good for small minded shallow lesbians, coz quite frankly they dont
deserve my time, dont get me wrong i think it is a small minority that have this attitude but
its outrageous. my close lesbian friends except all kinds of shapes and sizes which is why we
are so close and get on so well, how dare ppl judge you on the outside. i am in a commited
relationship and have had relationships in the past with some very attractive ladies who loved
loved all abd every part of me, so the good guys do excist!!!

Posted by Elzan, at 09:09 on Fri, Nov 2nd

I'm a Lesbian, but I'm still a WOMAN!!!!
I really don't understand why gay girls want to
have this butch look, yes you will get judged for it your a woman trying to look like a man! If
I wanted someone who looks like a man why wouldend I rather take the real thing? Sorry to all
the Butch girls out there but I'm a woman who likes the softer side of live and a girl who
doesn't want to feel SEXY no matter if your straight of gay there must be something wrong. BIG
can be Beautifull depends on how you dress!!

Posted by Rhianna, at 06:16 on Fri, Nov 2nd

9 time out of 10 I have no problem with my image and definitely don't feel a need to fill the
shoes of what others may expect of myself or anyone for that matter.. I'm sure we all have days
where we don't feel "quite right" or "adequate"; aside from those days I refuse to live up to
another's silly expectations or definition of "image"... Myself... well I am a tiny person, but
I have to be honest, I like my gals to have a bit of meat on them... Lady M. Monroe all the
way!!!

xo

Posted by DD, at 01:40 on Fri, Nov 2nd

I am a comfy size 16... and must admit, i feel and am damn sexy (sometimes). I am happy in my
skin and tend to look for women who feel the same... I've been the same size for more than 8
years and have no need to change..

in addition to 'Real woman have curves' I
defenately believe inhaving something to hold on to when it comes to when engaging in'play' ;)

Posted by Chelsea, at 00:53 on Thu, Nov 1st

Im confident in myself. Many people focus on the few negative parts of their appearence
rather than the numerous positive parts. I may have stretch marks on my thighs and i may have
big feet and a tooth thats wonky n out of place ... but i have many good points that out number
them. If you only ever look at the negative how will you ever feel comfortable in your own
skin. I think everyone should be confident in themselves. No matter what there size or age etc.
However dating someone is a different matter ... that comes down to personal preference. Its
what your attracted to. Some people love small boobs, but some people like big ones. Some
people like tall people, some like short. Its all down to personal preference. Although that
doesnt give people the right to just say your not my type in a very arrogant way, like they
dont match up to their standards. That hurts peoples feelings and knocks their confidence and
that i cannot stand. You should say to someone if you encounter this, you are unbelievable
beautiful and i can see that, your beautiful in your own way but im just not right for you and
i dont think your right for me either, but there is someone who will be right for you... just
keep looking ......... saying that works .... sometimes ... occasionaly get the girl who takes
it the wrong way! lol

Posted by Paula, at 22:47 on Wed, Oct 31st

I dont think there is anything wrong with being skinny or being fat aslong as you're true to
yourself. If my girlfrined was size 22 or a size 0 i would only start caring if she was
unhappy. i mean truly unhappy not that i look fat in this outfit.
because at the end of the
day if you cant keep a smile on youre face because of what other people think, then youre going
to live a rather sad life. Media and society are ever changing, there is nothing rong with
trying to stay healthy but if you want to move in the local bakers go for it.

Posted by sam, at 21:20 on Wed, Oct 31st

i work out 5 times a week and really look after my body, i go for women with a similar body
type to mine. is there anythig wrong in wanting a gf who looks after herself as much as i do?

Posted by Kizzy, at 20:19 on Wed, Oct 31st

Well, i personally hate the Kate Moss types. Im skinny but not by choice, i got ill and lost it
and have battled since to get it back (didnt work) Heres what i think of me, Im skinny, small,
have small breasts and probably dont eat that much, but heres the best thing, I couldnt care
less because im happy the way i am and other people dont like it, its really tough on them coz
i could be a nice person for all they know! I do feel the pressure to look like everyone else,
but i ignore it! :D Love ya xxx

Posted by siobhán, at 18:19 on Wed, Oct 31st

In my own experience i have found that the 'gay scene' can be so superficial and especially
when hanging around with my gay male friends, it's mostly about someones looks..which is as
shallow as one can get and usually leads to being disillusioned later on...for me intelligence
is the biggest turn on, irrespective of size, shape or colour...I have been in love with a
large fuzzy red triangle for sometime now...lol

Posted by Crystal, at 16:50 on Wed, Oct 31st

I for one am really sick and tired of being told how my dressing like a man is "just a faze"
and that I'll eventually "grow out of it".

I've been openly gay for about 3 or more
years now, I've had gay lovers over these years, and I'm 21 years old. I'm not going to high
school (i've graduated) and I'm pretty dam sure I'm gay. What gives them the right to tell me
that: "Oh, it's only a faze, *chuckle*".

It really pisses me off for one thing, and
another, If I was a gay man who dressed like a women, I would get ridiculed, but people
wouldn't see it as a "faze".

Posted by Toni-Louise, at 16:48 on Wed, Oct 31st

i LOVE bigger girls && Beth Ditto, i'm still not over her stripping at Reading
Festival..

=]

xxxx

Posted by Lambchop Lesbian, at 16:47 on Wed, Oct 31st

People who discriminates other people because of size are just vain. I have a lovely
girlfriend who has been told by people in the past (including girlfriends) that shes fat etc
etc but they didn't see the beautiful person inside that body. I don't even think shes fat. The
proper term for her is dead sexy! People need to learn to get to know people from the inside
before judging from their looks.........they could be missing out on a once in a lifetime
chance of finding that special someone......I should know.

Posted by tiffany, at 16:06 on Wed, Oct 31st

I can say that I am guilty of size discrimination. I like thin women, and when I was living on
that river in Egypt, I liked thin men, it was just a preference. I myself am a size 14 - 16 and
I hate my image, due to the media, and to the fact that fat is definitely not in in Las Vegas
(yes, yanks are like adolf when it comes to weight). I've always been big, I looked like the
Stay Puff Marshmellow baby, but I did not feel not sexy until I moved here. All of that set
aside, I did not really actively try to lose weight until I began to have health issues, and
the thing is, no matter what I do, I'm still big. I have no health issues that the doctors have
found, that prevent me from losing weight, I just don't. Now, considering that I've always been
big and just do not lose weight (not because of lack of trying, I was very active when I was
younger, yet still big) I should accept my size and be comfortable in my own skin. But when you
are in an environment where the media depicts thin as right and everyone conforms to this it is
hard to be comfortable. It's almost sick the way we all do it. We refuse to be who we are
because a handful of people say we should be something out, when the reality is, the average
size is 14! Putting this all in writing really does something for me, I'm going to stop being
shallow (because that's what it is) and stop basing my dating habits on the size of someone's
waist.

Posted by alison, at 15:57 on Wed, Oct 31st

I am between a size 16 & 18 and i think my size puts other girls off me when they meet me. I
get to know a lass over texting and phoning and they are all i want to be yyour girfriend but
on the day they meet me its oh a just want to be friends. It reallty hurts me.

Posted by jules, at 14:43 on Wed, Oct 31st

i have never felt like i fitted in on the scene im femme and a size 16 when i first started
going out i stopped wearing dresses and heels because i felt like only skinny girls were
classed as femme so i dressed butch

now i just wear what i want fck everyone and fck
labels its hard enough to fit in to the world being gay its hard when your judged by the way
you dress by those that should accept you

Posted by nappa, at 14:18 on Wed, Oct 31st

It took me a long time to feel cmfortable with the way i look because all ppl saw when they
looked at me was a butch lesbian i do dress quite butch but i also dress feminine when i want
so i dont care wat ppl think anymore as long as im happy.

Posted by charlie, at 13:43 on Wed, Oct 31st

there are such a selection of women now on the brighton scene that i dont think weight is as
much of an issue as it was when i first started going out around 4 years ago, when everyone
seemed to be skinny and i always felt out of place. or maybe nothing has changed and i have
just grown up and accepted myself for who i am?

Posted by spannerbob, at 13:32 on Wed, Oct 31st

toreet im anna frm manc....

ive only just started going out proper this year to gay
village and that and i love it
yes i will admit i am a big girl but u no wot it dont
matter how big or how small its the inside that counts.....like when i 1st started going
village i fort oh jezz luk at everyone.....they all looked gurd and i felt like i cudnt fit
in..... but now i feel part of the family....because people have got to now me for who i am not
for what i look like on the outside....soooooo yeahh ano im only 18 but i feel realy happy with
the way i look.......and i hope everyone else can be happy with the way they look insted of
thinkin theys gota luk like a model or super stars these days.........

Posted by dani, at 13:18 on Wed, Oct 31st

its not just the weight, its the hair, the clothes and everything else that helps like you fit
in

Posted by Alexandra, at 13:18 on Wed, Oct 31st

I'l never be happy with the way i look. I'm flat chested and have a big nose, and i feel
selfconsious where ever i go.
Recently been diagnosed with diabetes means i lost alot of
weight and now im piling on the pounds again, and i dont like it.
i feel like i have to be
thin in order for people to like me.
Yet i prefer women with abit of meat on their bones.
Im even considering getting a boob job, in order to feel comfortable in bars and things with
all the other perfect people.
when i walk into a gay bar i instantly look at the bigger
people. yet i could never allow myself to be that way.
weight is such an issue that is
taken too out of perportion, ond forses these bigger people to slim down, when they really dont
need to.
Dont know if that made any sence, so i'l shut up now

Posted by Lisa, at 13:05 on Wed, Oct 31st

Im a recovering anorexic, there is no way to escape the images that gay or straight your
supposed to be thin to be beautiful. I agree with you though, none of my girlfriends were below
a size 12 but still I always convinced myself I needed to be stick thin :(

Posted by Stace, at 13:00 on Wed, Oct 31st

I have friends who refuse to go to certain bars because they dont feel like they fit in purely
because of their age and how they look and dress. I was 30 before I was happy with how I
looked.